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Wednesday, November 22, 2006

Managing Your Menstrual Pain

By Olu Bicoy

So what makes a woman more susceptible to menstrual cramps?

• Starting your period at an early age (younger than 11 years old)

• Menstrual periods last for more than 5 days

• You are overweight or obese

• Smoking cigarettes or alcohol use

• You have never been pregnant

Menstrual Pain Causes

Prostaglandins are chemicals produced by a woman’s body and they cause many of the symptoms associated with menstrual pain. The tissue lining a woman’s uterus produces prostaglandins, the chemicals stimulate the uterine muscles causing them to contract. Contracting uterine muscles cause menstrual cramps. Women who have high levels of prostaglandins experience more intense uterine contractions, and therefore more intense pain. Prostaglandins may also cause vomiting, diarrhea and headaches.

Although some pain during menstruation is normal, excessive pain is not. The medical term for excessively painful periods is dysmenorrhea.

There are two types of dysmenorrhea:

• Primary dysmenorrhea refers to menstrual pain in healthy women. The pain is not related to any problems with the uterus or pelvic organs.

• Primary dysmenorrhea can be caused by the following:

o Strong uterine contractions

o Anxiety and stress

o Blood and tissue being discharged through a narrow cervix

o Displaced uterus

o Lack of exercise

• Secondary dysmenorrhea is menstrual pain that is attributed to an underlying disease or structural abnormality either within or outside the uterus.

• Secondary dysmenorrhea can be caused by the following:

o Endometriosis (inflammation of the lining of the uterus)

o Blood and tissue being discharged through a narrow cervix

o Uterine fibroid or ovarian cyst

o Infections of the uterus

o Pelvic inflammatory disease

o Intrauterine device

o Abnormal pregnancy, such as ectopic pregnancy


If you have primary dysmenorrhea, there are measures you can take to ease your discomfort. However, secondary dysmenorrhea can only be managed by first treating your underlying condition with the help of your physician.

The effects of primary dysmenorrhea can be treated with over the counter pain relief and anti-inflammatory medication, like ibuprofen. Other home remedies for treating menstrual pain include:
• Apply a heating pad to the lower abdomen (do not fall asleep with it on)

• Take warm showers or baths

• Drink warm beverages

• Do light circular massage with your fingertips around your lower abdomen

• Walk or exercise regularly, including pelvic rocking exercises

• Add more complex carbohydrates to your diet such as whole grains, fruits, and vegetables, but decrease your intake of salt, sugar, alcohol and caffeine.

• Eat light but frequent meals

• Keep your legs elevated when lying down or lie on your side with your knees bent

Be sure to see your doctor immediately if you experience menstrual pain and a fever, if your vaginal discharge increases in amount or if it becomes foul-smelling, or if your pain is significant, your period is over one week late and you have been sexually active.

Novasure Cure for Heavy Menstrual Bleeding

By Dorothy M. Neddermeyer

Commercials sing the praises of the Novasure® System, the latest miracle cure for heavy menstrual bleeding. It treats the entire inside of the uterus (endometrial cavity) at once. The procedure does not require any incisions, and does not require hospitalization.

A slender device is inserted through the cervix under local anesthesia with sedation, or general anesthesia. Once it is in place, treatment time averages 90 seconds. Most women can resume most of their normal activities in a day or two.

Before endometrial ablation is done using most other methods, it is necessary to thin the lining of the uterus with hormonal medication that induces temporary menopause or with birth control pills. Some of these medicines can have troublesome side effects. Also, with other devices the ablation must then be done at a specific time of the menstrual cycle. The biggest advantage of Novasure® is that hormonal pre-treatment is not needed, and it can be done at any time of the cycle.

What the commercials don’t tell you and your doctor might not either, unless you demand to know the truth, are the adverse effects associated with NovaSure Endometrial Ablation.

As with all endometrial ablation procedures, serious injury or death can occur. The following adverse effects could occur or have been reported in association with the use of the NovaSure® system:

• Thermal injury to adjacent tissue

• Perforation of the uterine wall

• Post-ablation tubal sterilization syndrome

• Air or gas embolism

• Complications with pregnancy (Note: Pregnancy following endometrial ablation is very dangerous for both the mother and the fetus)

• Infection or sepsis

• Complications leading to serious injury or death

So, you can see this medical miracle isn’t total gain—you are simply changing one set of symptoms for another. The only one who gains is the physician who performs the medical procedure and also prescribes the medication in a futile effort to rectify the loss of metabolic chemicals the body needs. You have become a life-time patient for this enterprising doctor.

It is a known fact that Japanese women tend to suffer with menstrual symptoms or hot flashes only about 1/3 as often as American women. Women on vegetarian diets also complain of hot flashes far less than women who eat meat. Of course, you don’t have to give up those steaks–but doctors and nutritional professionals suspect that the difference is largely due to the use of soy products in the diets of these women, and many women have realized that by incorporating some soy in their diets, their menstrual symptoms and menopausal symptoms have abated considerably.

Other important supplements are:

• Flaxseed: High in phytoestrogens (especially lignans), flaxseed also is high in omega-3 fatty acids -- a key helper in fighting heart disease. And, like soy, it’s a good all-round helper in your body. It’s high in phytoestrogens, flaxseed can help minimize symptoms like hot flashes. Studies have shown that it can help lower LDL (the “bad”) cholesterol. Studies have shown that it helps fight breast cancer and other cancers. It can help prevent heavy bleeding -- a common symptom when you’re first beginning to enter premature menopause and going through erratic periods. Because it’s high in omega-3 acids, it help ease symptoms like breast tenderness, cramping, and other PMS-like discomfort.

• Red Clover (available under the brand name Promensil) is another phytoestrogen high in bioflavonoids. Like other phytoestrogens, red clover has been shown to reduce hot flashes, help fight osteoporosis, and generally minimize other menopausal symptoms. But there have recently been other studies that found that it wasn't as helpful as initially believed. As with so many other supplements, the jury is still out.

• Vitamin E and Citrus Bioflavonoids: This combination is a hot-flash buster -- with studies showing that taking these two supplements together helps combat hot flashes. 400 IUs of Vitamin E along with 1200 mg of bioflavonoids taken in the morning and again before bedtime has been shown to reduce the frequency and severity of hot flashes. (One note: Vitamin E isn’t safe for everyone. If you have rheumatic heart disease, high blood pressure, or diabetes, or take digitalis drugs, Vitamin E can be harmful. So be sure to check with your doctor about the appropriate dosage.)

• One study (conducted in the 1960s. . . unfortunately there have been few more recent studies) found that, after only one month, over 50 percent of the 94 participating women taking 1200 milligrams of bioflavonoids along with 1200 milligrams of Vitamin C stopped having hot flashes completely and another 34 percent had a drop in hot flash frequency and intensity. Studies have also shown that bioflavonoids also appear to help relieve moodiness, anxiety, irritability and other emotional side effects of menopause -- and can help fight vaginal dryness. Vitamin E helps with vaginal dryness (you can even use it as a vaginal suppository -- just putting the capsule in your vagina.)

• Vitamin A or Beta Carotene: If you’re suffering from vaginal dryness -- or if you’ve noticed a change in your skin texture, a drying or loss of elasticity, Vitamin A or beta carotene can help. Vitamin A (which is what beta carotene converts to in your body) helps maintain tissues, skin, and mucous membranes—help fight against vaginal dryness and skin changes that often come with low estrogen levels.

• B-Vitamins: This family of vitamins helps in coping with premature menopause, both in terms of helping combat symptoms and fighting negative long-term risks. B vitamins can keep your energy levels up; support your liver function ( a definite plus if you’re on HRT, as oral estrogen is broken down by your liver); prevent vaginal dryness; increase your resistance to infection; help maintain your adrenal gland function -- which is where the precursor to estrone (the form of estrogen still produced by your body after menopause) is produced. B vitamins are considered stress fighters -- so can help you to deal with the emotional symptoms that crop up during premature menopause such as: anxiety, irritability, mood swings, even insomnia.

• In addition, if you’re on HRT, it’s a good idea to be sure you’re getting B-vitamins either through your diet (whole grains, beans and brewer’s yeast are all good sources of B vitamins) or in a multi-vitamin or B-complex supplement, since studies have shown that HRT may cause a deficiency in B2, B12, B6 and Biotin.

• Calcium: A definite must to help prevent osteoporosis, calcium can also help lower blood pressure, reduce triglyceride levels (that sometimes rise in women on some forms of HRT.)

• Magnesium: Magnesium is a very important calcium helper -- and also helps fight the crashing fatigue that often comes at the beginning of premature or early menopause by boosting energy levels.

• Potassium: helps boost energy. It regularizes your heart beat, which can help if you get palpitations -- a fairly common symptom of menopause. In addition, it can help you cope with water retention and bloating, both of which are side effects with certain forms of HRT, particularly progestins such as Provera.

• Black Cohosh: helps cut down on hot flashes and other menopausal symptoms, it help with cramps, heavy periods and other menstrual irregularities. Studies conducted using black cohosh have shown that it appears to be quite effective, especially for hot flashes. And some researchers believe it may help prevent osteoporosis and reduce bone resorption, although no long-term studies conducted on humans have substantiated this.

• Chasteberry (Vitex agnus castus): This (like black cohosh) appears to act like a progesterone and has been used in Europe for many years to alleviate PMS symptoms as well as menopausal symptoms. It may help diminish both LH and FSH and appears to affect your pituitary function. Different studies have found that it reduced menopausal symptoms, particularly hot flashes and irregular bleeding. It is helpful for breast tenderness, primarily because chasteberry suppresses prolactin production. Typically, it takes about three to four weeks to notice results. One note, however: While chasteberry is widely used in Europe, there have been no double-blind placebo studies conducted on it.

• Evening Primrose Oil: A good source of GLA (gamma linoleic acid), evening primrose oil has been used by many women to help fight PMS symptoms -- many of which are the same as menopausal symptoms. It’s a good bet to help prevent bloating, water retention, breast tenderness, cramps and vaginal dryness.

• St. Johns Wort or Sam-E: If you’re finding yourself more easily depressed, St. Johns Wort or Sam-E may help. Widely touted as a natural tranquilizer, this herb helps relieve irritability, depression, and fatigue. Over 23 different studies have found that it’s effective in fighting depression -- when hormone levels plunge suddenly.

• Kava Kava: Helps in reducing anxiety, fighting depression, and leveling mood swings, kava kava has been shown to be quite effective. One recent study found that women with menopausal symptoms taking 100 mg of kava kava three times a day reported a difference after only one week.

• Valerian: If you’re suffering from insomnia, a common symptom, valerian may help. It’s used widely in Europe to treat sleep disturbances, as well as for nervousness and menstrual problems. It’s also known as an anxiety reliever -- so may help with mood swings and tension.

Altering your diet in small ways can have the greatest positive effect on your body. For instance, by staying away from hot drinks, you’re not giving your body reason to “heat up” and produce a hot flash. At the same time, reducing your caffeine intake (which often comes in the form of hot drinks, including coffee and tea) will naturally help you sleep better at night, which will keep your mood and mental state healthy.

Lastly, replacing these drinks with water and juice will keep your bones and muscles well-lubricated, prevent osteoporosis from settling in, and temper your general aches and pains. We know it’s no easy task to give up coffee, but think of the endless benefits of this one relatively minor change to your diet.

One of the most commonly complained about symptoms of menopause is the weight gain that seems to come along with it. Put simply, your body isn’t burning calories in the same way it once was, so if you don’t change your diet–even if it’s already a healthy one – you’re bound to gain a few pounds around the waist.

Changing your diet now, simply by avoiding a few foods that are bound to make other symptoms worse, while increasing the foods high in certain vitamins while remaining low in calories, will help you to maintain your figure while giving your body the nutrients it needs to fight off the worst symptoms of menstruation or menopause.

For instance, foods high in potassium, including most fruits, will help you keep your mind sharp while promoting healthy water flushing throughout your body (which will reduce cramps and bloating), while keeping your muscles and bones lubricated and strong – including your needy joints and your thinning vaginal walls. In short, this is the time in your life when “an apple a day” couldn’t ring more true!

Oily fish--including salmon, tuna, and vegetable oils, are often recommended by nutritionists for anyone wanting to keep their minds sharp. But these oils are also useful in helping keep your muscles from drying, while helping your digestive system.

Everything from Vitamins C and E to herbal remedies such as Dong Quai and Wild Yam Root are superior to abating the menstrual and menopausal symptoms than any pharmaceutical. You can explore the countless ways in which these small changes or additions to your diet will not only combat the unique symptoms you’re going through, but the ways in which you can identify these symptoms quickly to lead a healthy life during your menstrual years and long after menopause.

Let’s talk about soy—it’s been in the news, and for good reason, but where do you start? Many of us would buy a chunk of tofu, which, let’s face it, can be tasteless, but it doesn’t end there, you don’t need to move to Japan to figure out how to add it to your diet. You don’t need to give up eating cheeseburgers to enjoy the occasional veggie burger, but adding some soy to your diet has abated the negative symptoms of menstruation and menopause for millions of women. If you’ve not eaten many soy products, don’t turn up your nose yet–in addition to abating your negative peri- or menopause symptoms, you may find that you actually like it! Not to mention soy is a lot less expensive compared to prescriptions, surgery and negative aftereffects.

Monday, November 20, 2006

Interesting Ways and Unusual Places To Meet Singles

By Christine Akiteng

Our parents warned us about talking to strangers, but by age 30, you can tell the difference between the good and the weird ones. If at 30 you still can't tell the weird from the not-so-weird; the not-so-weird from the good ones, then something weird is really going on with you... except of course if you are just re-entering the dating field after many years of absence - then your excuse is valid!

Many of us think that going up to a complete stranger and risk rejection takes guts, I think what it takes is the right mindset and a little strategy - besides what have you got to lose? At least you won’t spend the next six weeks dreaming about a total stranger. .

Below you'll find some unusual haunts, places you may have never thought of as fertile breeding ground - remember all it takes is the right mindset and a little strategy...

Friend-of-a friend

This is how most people meet the love of their lives. This is not just a casual thing on the phone, asking your friend if he or she knows anyone. You must do your homework. Okay, may be he or she will figure out that this is not a chance meeting, but so what? If they are not flattered, they are not interested – and it works out just as well for you.

Personal Growth Seminars.

I am talking about those with plenty of yy and yz-chromosome-interaction. These are really great places to meet compatible people while educating yourself. Don’t leave before the happy hour after the event, this is when people are more open and eager to exercise their minds. Do more listening than talking.

Adult Classes

Night courses, especially are great. For some reason people are friendlier at night and after three hours of someone talking down to them, they're charmed to find someone who wants to hear what they have to say - and that someone is you. But make sure you take those classes that interest you so that even if you do not meet anyone interesting at least you learned something that will help your life or career.

Pet Love

Walk your dog, cat, bird, snake or whatever, but don’t take Fido, Cruise or Paris for just any walk—bring him or her to the local park or in a busy apartment complex. Look around, make eye contact, smile, start a conversation about dogs, cats etc. that should be easy...

Christening Parties

These places have tons of personality since most people are forced to spend at least a few hours in one place out of sheer politeness. Find an excuse to do something near your target – change a CD, grab some hors d’oeuvres or enlist the host/hostess’ help and just go and stand over there. The idea is to catch their eye and smile. If she/he seems friendly close the gap and introduce yourself.

Home Depot and Hardware Stores

These chains offer enough hunting potential opportunities to warrant a category of their own. There is an abundance of available men and women (believe it or not!) roaming the aisles for tools, fixtures, wood—and dates. These days everybody is impressed by a man or woman who can fix their own faucet - I think it's the thought of muscles that look like machines.

Action-filled group excursions

You’ll be surprised at how many 30+ eligible singles are discovering that adventure and doing the things that one is passionate about can stimulate a new love. If you don’t meet anyone special, nothing is lost because the activity was rewarding enough.

The Office

Not surprising that two-thirds of people meet their partners through work. The great thing about office hook –ups is that there are a million ways to chat them up, just make sure they are not married to the boss - or high strung - otherwise you'll find yourself staring one huge sexual harassment suit in the face.


Online dating is more mainstream than ever—and it’s even taking cool new strides with video chat. All you need is the latest version of Flash, a DSL or cable connection and a recent browser—and some sites even offer to send you a free Web cam to get started.

The Supermarket

Those new wide aisles aren’t for easy cart access alone, they’re for flirting in. Besides you can tell a lot about somebody by what’s in their shopping cart. Disposable diapers and cartons of Cool-Aid says: "married with children". Chocolate cookies and ready made dinner is definitely single. Just one word of warning, some couples split while shopping. Best time to catch the single ones is late like ten or eleven in the night, you’ll spot them easily – they look single!

The Laundry Mart

A terrific place to check out their underwear without having to take it off them. Pick one just around the coffee shop to satisfy your caffeine cravings; and while your clothes are whooshing and sizzling in the dyers you are trying to ignite a fire of your own.

Airports and Transit Stations

True, airports are a hassle these days, but all that hustling and bustling can actually be a breeding ground for, well, breeding! It’s even possible to bond over bad service. It’s all about attitude and a healthy dose of confidence.

Dinner - and a Date

Find some places where people eat out alone or join one of those clubs that sets up dinner parties of four single men and four single women who share similar backgrounds and interests. If love doesn’t bloom, at least you’ll have had a great meal and good conversation – it’s just like a date but with nobody in particular!.

While this article is about the new and unusual haunts for meeting single men and woman, never forget that your dating success rests largely on yourself. This means that you’ve done the work necessary to have a stable, balanced lifestyle, have a strong sense of self-esteem and confidence, have put closure to unfinished business from the past, and have a clear vision of who you are, what you want, and what you stand for (both as an individual and for a life partner and relationship). This is your foundation for your negotiable and non-negotiable needs as you date.

Einstein said that there are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing were a miracle. The other is as if everything were a miracle.

Happy Hunting!!

Sunday, November 19, 2006

How to Perform Cunnilingus: Tips from the Experts

Tip #1: Learn the ABCs of oral sex on her

While every body is different, a few basic things remain the same. Here are some tried and true tips for before, during and after performing cunnilingus:
  • Share a shower together before you begin so neither of you have to worry about possible unpleasant tastes or odors.
  • Ask your partner what she likes. At the very least, she can say things like "harder" or "slower" or "more circles."
  • Fill your own mouth with saliva first. Never touch or lick the clitoris with a dry finger or tongue.
  • Know where the clitoris is but don't dive straight for it. First try gentle kissing and licking around the upper thighs and vulva.
  • Tell her how good she looks, smells and tastes.
  • Think variety. If you repeat the same motion, your partner may become temporarily insensitive to it, so be sure to vary your stimulation.
  • Let your hands roam. As she becomes more aroused, insert a finger or two into her vagina.
  • Some women like to have a finger gently inserted into their anus. If she doesn't like it, don't do it.
  • Continue to fondle and hold her as she orgasms and after.
  • The clitoris has more nerve endings than the entire head of the penis. Be gentle.
  • Unlike men, many women enjoy strong stimulation while having an orgasm. Keep it going until she asks you to stop.

These suggestions should give you a start, but experiment and see what you and your partner enjoy. The greatest tip of all is to relax and enjoy yourself. Enthusiasm goes further than even the best of techniques!

Tip #2: Create an oral pleasure scenario

Again, every body is different. However, some variation on the following plan should work wonders.

Set the scene with candles, fresh flowers, incense, soft music... whatever she prefers. Your thoughtfulness will surprise and delight her.

Make sure she's comfortable. Encourage her to recline on the bed. Place a few pillows behind her head. Make sure she isn't cold.

Don't dive directly for the genitals; spend some time kissing her lips, shoulders, breasts and belly. Stroke her lightly with your fingertips. Tell her how beautiful she is. Move down between her legs and gently kiss, blow, stroke and nibble her belly, inner thighs and hips.

When she's breathing heavily, gently spread her legs and kiss her pubic mound. Nuzzle around for a few minutes, spending time with the different parts of her vulva. Pay attention to her breathing; when she breathes faster, she's enjoying herself more. Take note of what she likes and repeat it.

When she sounds highly aroused -- she may be wiggling around a bit, as well -- spread her labia and gently kiss and tongue her clitoris. Don't hold the clitoral hood back unless she instructs you too -- the clitoris is highly sensitive.

Lick and nuzzle the entire area: vaginal opening, perineum, inner labia and clitoris. If she says or otherwise indicates that she particularly likes what you're doing, spend a little time there.

Wrap your arms around her hips, cupping her buttocks, and get to work on her clitoris. Apply firm pressure with the tip of your tongue in a circular motion. Be patient: you might be here awhile. If she's not responding to the clitoral pressure you're exerting, try some variations. Try tracing the letters of the alphabet across her genitals and clitoris. Try inserting your tongue into her vagina (some women dislike this, so pay attention to her response or just ask her if she likes it). Vary speed, pressure and intensity. Try inserting your fingers or a sex toy into her vagina. Be creative.

When you hear rapid heavy breathing and feel her body start to tense up, she's really enjoying the stimulation you're giving her. Whatever you do, don't stop doing what you're doing. She's probably about to have an orgasm.

Continue to stimulate and hold her while she climaxes. Be warned: women can have much longer orgasms than men and can experience waves of orgasms that last several minutes. Let her enjoy herself and continue to stimulate her until she lets you know you can stop.

Tip #3: Learn how to request (and receive) cunnilingus

While studies show that the majority of men (and lesbian women) enjoy performing cunnilingus; some may still need a little coaxing from you. Hint that if your partner pleases you, you'll take care of them too. Suggest a "69" position. Work cunnilingus into your regular sexual program, but don't expect it every time you have sex. Thank your partner by reciprocating or indulging them in one of their fantasies.

While you're on the receptive end, try to relax. One of the reasons it can take some women so long to reach orgasm is that they don't relax enough to climax. Try not to think about how you smell or taste. Don't worry that you're taking too long; it naturally takes most women longer than men to reach orgasm. Try to relax and enjoy the stimulation your partner is giving you. If you prefer, try closing your eyes and fantasizing. When you're getting ready to have an orgasm, let your partner know so they can concentrate on providing you the rhythmical stimulus you need. Ride the waves until your body is done climaxing. Then thank your partner with a long, juicy kiss.

Tip #4: Surprise her with oral sex props

You don't have to rely solely on your mouth or fingers when "going down south" on your woman. Our tongues and fingers were not made to vibrate, pulsate or gyrate and most of us can't provide unlimited stimulation with them. And, sometimes orally pleasing your partner can be downright tiring. Never fear, there are some special oral sex props that can assist you. Try the following to enhance your oral play repertoire:
  • When your tongue gets tired of flicking and licking her "love button", try using a clitoral stimulator as a stand-in. A bullet vibe works best, giving you lots of room to continue stimulating the rest of her vulva with your mouth and/or fingers.
  • Some women enjoy vaginal or anal penetration while having their clitoris stimulated. As mentioned above, you can try inserting a finger or two to stimulate her internally. Next time, try inserting a well lubricated small sex toy that vibrates. Some even have a special curved tip ideal for G-Spot stimulation.
  • Finally, try using some flavored lube (for your benefit) or even a tingling arousal gel (for her pleasure).

Remember that everyone's body is different. What one woman loves, another woman hates. Talk to your partner about what she likes and dislikes. The more comfortable you are discussing cunnilingus, the more you'll enjoy performing it--but the best way to excel at cunnilingus is lots of practice. Fortunately, your partner should be more than happy to help out!

How Natural Penis Enlargement Programs Work

Natural penis enlargement established itself as the number one proven method to develop the size of your penis. The basic principle is that by using exercises you can enhance your girth and length by up to 3 inches.

Your penis is consists of 3 main areas, 2 large chambers on the top (Corpora Cavernosa) and 1 smaller chamber on the bottom (Corpus Spongisum). When you increase an erection your penis fills with blood, filling all these chambers. The Corpus Spongisum is the chamber used generally when you urinate and ejaculate. The Corpora Cavernosa on the other hand, is the main blood holding chamber of the penis, here is where 90% of all blood is stored each and whenever you increase an erection.

Basically, this means it is not possible for your penis to get larger by itself, because the blood that fills the penis is already filling the maximum size of the Corpora Cavernosa. The only real method of penis enlargement is to correctly improve and increase your Corpora Cavernosa. This is only likely through the use of dedicated exercises and techniques made especially for penile growth and development.

Some facts about successful completion of a good natural enlargement program:

  • The Corpora Cavernosa is a particular size which limits your erection girth and length.

  • Good enlargement programs force the blood to fill all spaces within the Corpora Cavernosa, extending and enlarging the blood spaces with every session just like a body exercise.

  • The penis would become a lot fitter, stronger and larger in girth and length, after 2 weeks.

  • After one month, your erections will become hard and your sexual stamina better as you learn to control your ejaculations.

  • After 2-3 months, your penis will become permanently larger when flaccid and when fully erect, you may now end the program as your length and girth gains will stay forever.

Benefits You Can Expect

The most important part is the changes you see when you begin exercising. After several weeks, the first thing you will see is that your erections become much harder and thicker than before -- same as when you're extremely aroused. For the reason that the blood circulation has developed and the volume of blood entering your penis has enlarged. Your penis also looks much bigger than before when flaccid, because of the developed blood flow.

After almost a month, you can expect to increase about half an inch in erect length and fullness. At this point, you will also have increased and enhanced the function of your 'PC muscle'. This muscle is positioned just behind your scrotum and plays an important role in ejaculation. By increasing this muscle and developing the control you have over it, you are able to slow down ejaculation and gain your sexual stamina.

If you continue to exercise regularly over the following few months, it's usual to increase around 2 inches in erect length and just over an inch in thickness. This is a good goal to aim for, as it is a reasonable target and is achievable for the majority of men.


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Penis Length and Girth - Does one Really Care?

By Marcus Richman

Although it is true that almost every man is concerned about penis size, there are men who have never measured their Penis and aren't too concerned about its length. Looking at the history, there are poets, philosophers, writers and artists who have tried to determine what the average size is for manhood and what is considered above average. In erotic literature it is believed that a bigger penis is the symbol of manhood , sexual power and vigor.

The question "Does size really matter?" is a common question, for both men and women. Men usually are obsessed, more or less about their penis size, while women are obsessed about their breast size. In fact, all of men think of how to find a way to make their member larger. These days, having bigger penis or larger breast is not difficult because the penis enhancement industry has undergone a great development. From penis enlargement pills, patches to creams, penis enlargement exercises and a lot of other natural products, like traction devices, and even surgery, there are various option available. The media and the stories with men with very large penises, has contributed to the already bizarre subject of penis size.

Most specialists agree that the average penis size in erection is between 5.5 and 6.4 inches in length and about 4.7 and 5.2 inches in girth. Another fact that needs to be mentioned is that penis size does not depend of height or hand, feet, and nose, because there is no bone in the penis. But, penis size has some effect regarding the self confidence and self esteem which affect the sexual life in general. Though the length of the penis may have not much to do with sexual pleasure, the girth may have a big importance. It has something to do with stimulating the G-spot which is located about two inches inside the upper wall of the vagina as some therapists explain.

In conclusion , this is still a matter of preference. While most women prefer a big penis because a bigger penis offers her intense pleasure and more pleasurable orgasms, at the questions "what do you prefer over penis length and penis girth a woman answered us that she likes her partner to have “meatier” penis, meaning fuller penis, because in her case the nerves in her vaginal walls, located near the entrance of the vagina and the anus, are better stimulated during intercourse. For this woman, girth has more significance instead of a meatier penis, because it can stretch out the vaginal or anal walls that stimulate the nerves. A penis with increased girth can create friction and sensation that most women crave for during intercourse. Most women say that even though the penis is the most important instrument in love making, it is also important to have a combination of skills, passion and romance that heightens the sensation.

Saying that a man with a small penis is not good is a hasty generalization. Even if size matters, women are in general concerned about the man’s entire package, rather than just the one between their thighs. Women also seek passion, intimacy and emotional connection. See how you will impress her by giving her flowers, sensual massage or a bath with rose petals.


Monday, November 13, 2006

The Best Ways to Handle Physical Contact

By Tiffany Taylor

Touching/physical contact is an absolutely vital component of seduction.

You can't successfully pick-up a girl without first establishing a basic level of mutual tactility – i.e. before you can move in for the kill by kissing and/or sleeping with her, you MUST first have a regular, healthy amount of touching that works both ways: she flirtatiously puts her hand on your knee, you encircle her waist with your arm and pull her a little closer – whatever form the physical contact takes, it has to be present for you to achieve your final goal of actual seduction.

And that right there is where the problem for many men lies: how can a guy get the ball rolling when it comes to tactility and physical closeness? If the girl's not being tactile, how can a guy develop mutual physical closeness without freaking her out or scaring her away?

Often men just "go for it" and consequently end up making the girl feel uncomfortable or even slightly violated because of their rushed attempt at physical closeness. Other men decide they don't want to risk putting a girl off, so hold back any kind of touching or bodily contact – doing so usually sends out the wrong message: that the guy is either not interested in the girl, or that he's simply too timid to show it, neither of which are attractive scenarios in the mind of a good-looking, fun-loving girl. Okay, so what's the solution to this awkward problem?

Quite simply, you just need to follow a few basic rules or procedures, all of which conform to the personal boundaries of most girls (and therefore don't appear uncalled for or rushed), but at the same time clearly indicate that you're a confident guy who's not afraid of getting to know girls and even showing it through casual, relaxed physical contact. So, let's take a look.

1. Many men think that touching girls in any way when they first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that's simply not true. To form a positive, strong first impression and create an immediate bond with a girl when you first introduce yourself or get talking, casually and gently touch the outside of her right arm while at the same time verbally expressing something.

The outside of a woman's arm is not intimate enough a place for the touch to feel strange or out-of-place, but at the same time it's a clear-cut sign that you're a personable, socially adept kind of guy. Don't be afraid to give it a try – you'll notice the benefits immediately.

2. Once you've started a conversation with a girl, or when you randomly find yourself chatting to a woman you really like the look of, it's important to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport you've already created and also helps build it further, into mutually felt sexual attraction.

You can use something called 'Stealth Tactility' to do this. Quite simply, stealth tactility involves making physical contact with the girl in a disguised way. For example, if she wants to go to the bar or bathroom but doesn't know the way, you can use stealth tactility by placing your hand on her shoulder, drawing her in a little closer, swiveling both of your bodies round until you face in the right direction, then point past other people or obstacles with your other hand to where she needs to go.

3. Lastly, always try to use a 'contact close' when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss.

Many men think that the hard work's been done once something's been arranged for a later date, but making physical contact before you part with a girl is always a great way of ensuring she remembers you and really cannot wait to see you again.

Learn more:  How to Chat-up Women

Friday, November 10, 2006

Male multiple orgasm. How to become "multi-orgasmic"

Any man can become "multi-orgasmic". It only requires a basic understanding of male sexuality and certain techniques. Most men’s sexuality is focused on the goal of ejaculating, rather than on the actual process of lovemaking. Once a man becomes multi-orgasmic he will not only be able to better satisfy himself, but also more effectively satisfy his partner.

Technically, multiple orgasms occur in succession, without complete loss of sexual arousal in between. Women are blessed with the ability to have multiple orgasms. Not many are aware that men with proper training, can actually do the same. In the case of women, multiple orgasm means resuming sexual stimulation shortly after a first orgasmic climax, usually immediately or within a few minutes, so that a second climax may be reached. If the woman does indeed experience further climaxes during the same sexual encounter, she is said to be multi-orgasmic.

Most men mistakenly believe that being able to regain their erection as soon as possible after ejaculation and reaching another climax within some arbitrary period of time qualifies as being multi-orgasmic. This is false because the true multi-orgasmic male does not lose his erection between orgasms. Multiple male orgasms include only orgasm and not ejaculation. The only exception being, when ejaculation accompanies the final orgasm in a multi-orgasmic experience.

Before continuing it would be important to better understand the technical process involved in the " Sexual Arousal Cycle" *

1. Excitement Phase
  • Vasocongestion
  • Erection
  • Increased heart rate
  • Partial testicular elevation and size increase (Tumescence)
  • Nipple erection

2. Plateau Phase
  • Further increase in penis tip size and testicles
  • Full testicular elevation
  • Purple hue on corona (although not always)
  • Cowper’s gland (pre-cum) secretions
  • Hyperventilation

3. Orgasm Phase (Consists of Emission & Ejaculation)

  • Sperm and fluid are expelled from the vas deferens, seminal vesicles and prostate gland, causing seminal fluid fluid to collect at the base of the urethral bulb near the prostate.
  • Myotonia – muscular rigidity just before the release tension
  • Blood pressure and respiratory rate increase further.

Ejaculatory Inevitability (point of no return) There is a consciousness of imminent ejaculation.

  • Bladder sphincter closes tightly
  • Rhythmic contractions of the prostate, perinial muscles and penile shaft propel semen outward.
  • A slight clouding of consciousness

4. Resolution Phase
  • Erection loss
  • Testes descend and scrotum thins
  • Reversal in myotonia and vasocongestion
  • Reduced heart rate and lowered blood pressure.
Multiple orgasms versus Ejaculatory orgasms

Both begin in the same way, moving from arousal until a point near ejaculation or "point of no return". At this point a man will experience a series of genital contractions lasting three to five seconds. These contractions are "pelvic orgasms" and at first feel like a "fluttering" or mild release of pressure. Once identified and controlled, these sensations will become progressively more intense.

When approaching "the point of no return" the goal is not to crest over into ejaculation but to decrease stimulation, just long enough to gain control over the arousal rate. Effective control can be achieved by squeezing the PC muscles. Learning to control the PC muscles is essential to sexual health and stamina.

In the diagram below, the plateau stage is represented roughly as a heightened state of arousal which will eventually lead into orgasm if stimulation is allowed to continue.

Notice how the two charts differ. In a typical singular orgasm including ejaculation, the plateau phase is reached and passed fairly quickly as the orgasm subsides and ejaculation occurs. In a multiple orgasmic encounter, the plateau phase is reached and sustained after the initial orgasm and between the next orgasm. The successive orgasms are also slightly stronger than the previous ones, if and when the man decides to ejaculate with the final orgasm. Ejaculation is optional, after several orgasms it may be decided not to ejaculate at all. In which case, the arousal pattern closely follows that of a woman and gradually declines over about an hour's time instead of declining very sharply after ejaculation.

How is multiple orgasm possible?

The male and female sexual "response cycles" are strikingly similar. The primary difference between the two is male ejaculation. Multi-orgasmic women are able to have successive orgasms if stimulation is resumed shortly after the first orgasm because they do not ejaculate (not withstanding reports that some women are able to ejaculate, as this has never been adequately scientifically explained).

Ejaculation initiates the refractory period in males. During this time, most men are unable to achieve another erection or even receive further stimulation due to the loss of sexual tension and the penis is usually too sensitive to touch. Since women are not biologically programmed to ejaculate, they do not have this annoying feature and are able to learn about and achieve multiple orgasms much easier than men.
The first key to understanding how men can have multiple orgasms is to understand that orgasm and ejaculation are distinct events, which one can learn to distinguish and separate. Most men have always accepted orgasm and ejaculation as one in the same because they happen in such rapid succession, orgasm beginning slightly before (ejaculation) then tapering off during ejaculation.

The second key to navigating the path to multiple orgasm is gaining the ability to separate orgasm and ejaculation.

The ability to separate these events involves the pubococcygeal muscle, or pelvic floor muscle, or "PC muscle" as it’s more commonly known. You may know this muscle for its ability to stop the flow of urine in mid-stream. If stopping the flow is difficult, you have a weak PC muscle. If this is the case you will need to work on strengthening the PC muscle before you'll be able to have multiple orgasms. If you squeeze or contract the PC muscle you should feel like everything deep in your pelvis is being drawn upward.

Breathing Exercises
  • Sit in a comfortable position relaxing the shoulders.
  • Place hands on the abdomen, just below the belly button.
  • Inhale deeply. Breathing deeply through the nose, so that the belly pushes out.
  • Exhale fully. Exhale to a point to a point of which the belly contracts back to the spine. The pelvis and testicles may feel as if they are pulling up slightly.
  • Repeat this exercise from 9 to 36 times.

Preparing yourself

Having multiple orgasms as a male is pretty remarkable, but it will take a great deal of preparation. As mentioned earlier, one of the first steps is to discover the PC muscle. It’s essential to become intimately familiar with this muscle in order to learn to control it very precisely. Some of this control will come with experience, but most will come by strengthening it through regular exercise. Once it’s been discovered where it is (most easily while urinating), it can be exercised anywhere, without anyone knowing.

  • You can begin experimenting on your own at first (while masturbating).
  • Make yourself comfortable and then begin masturbating as you might normally.
  • Stop just before you reach the point of no return (the point where you would ejaculate). Contract (squeeze) and hold your PC muscle for a count of ten.
  • Allow yourself relax and take a few minutes break.
  • Begin masturbating again, this time bringing yourself just a bit closer to the point of no return, again contracting your PC muscle.
  • Continue masturbating while paying very special attention to your own state of arousal and emotional feelings. The key here is to learn more about your own sexual response so that down the road you'll be more in control of it.

Stopping "right" before ejaculation

Continue masturbating, except this time, keep going until you reach orgasm. Right as you orgasm you should notice several contractions that signal the beginning of ejaculation in the base of your penis and perhaps even deeper inside your pelvis. As these contractions begin or preferably just before (but still during the orgasm), stop all stimulation to the penis and squeeze the PC muscle tight. You'll probably feel yourself trying to ejaculate, but hold it back! Squeezing your PC muscle effectively shuts off your ejaculation, if you are successful, and erases the refractory period.

A small amount semen may seep out, but not with any of the force you might normally experience during an unrestrained singular orgasm. If you were able to hold off ejaculating after your orgasm, start masturbating again now. It should feel as though you are still very aroused, not like you just ejaculated. You should be able to continue for a short time until you have another orgasm.

If you were unable to keep from ejaculating the first time, either your PC muscle isn't strong enough yet or you squeezed it at the wrong time. If you begin squeezing too late after the ejaculatory contractions have already begun, it is nearly impossible to shut stop the process completely. With practice you will learn the timing.


There are many possible techniques you can use to greatly increase your success in becoming multi-orgasmic. Perhaps the greatest technique you can practice is to share your experiences in becoming a multi-orgasmic man with your romantic partner. If you are eventually successful, this can be a wonderful opportunity for you to significantly increase the pleasure you both receive during lovemaking.

Overcoming problems

Undoubtedly the biggest obstacle most men will report when trying to become multi-orgasmic is failure to squeeze their PC muscle sufficiently during orgasm to ward off ejaculation. You may feel some contractions, but do not stop squeezing at this point because a few ejaculatory contractions are likely even if you are successful in eventually stopping them. If you are successful, the contractions will stop before you ejaculate and you should be able to resume stimulation without a loss of sensitivity, as would be present during the refractory period after ejaculation.

Another common problem many men may report with these techniques is failing to determine exactly where the boundaries of plateau, orgasm, and ejaculation begin and end. If you cannot determine the difference between orgasm and ejaculation, a key to becoming multi-orgasmic, you can only succeed by accident and not intentionally.

Some men may try to stimulate themselves very quickly and rigorously, and this is not the best way to become aware of your personal level of sexual awareness. Taking the stimulation slower rather than faster will allow you to discover your personal boundaries between arousal, plateau, and orgasm more easily. With these discoveries you will have a much greater chance of learning when to squeeze your PC muscle, when to stop stimulation, and when to relax your PC muscle and resume stimulation to experience another orgasm.

Pelvic pressure after arousal. Pressure in the pelvic area is a natural result of increased blood flow into the genital area. If the level of this pressure is uncomfortable, it will be helpful to breathe deeply, elevate the lower extremities and massage the perineum and testicles lightly. This will help the body assimilate the energy from the testicles to the rest of the body. It would be best also to stay in a reclined position for 5 - 10 minutes.

Other Benefits

It is quite possible that if you have other sexual problems such as premature ejaculation, learning to become multi-orgasmic will help you tremendously during lovemaking. Not only will you be able to greatly prolong the session by suppressing ejaculation until you choose, but you will be free to release your worries and anxiety and focus more on pleasing your partner. The list of positive effects can be nearly endless!


Some men may wonder if age can have any effect on the chances of success in becoming multi-orgasmic. There's no reason why sexually mature men of all ages shouldn't see the same high rate of success, assuming they are sexually active and have a high level of personal sexual awareness.

If you have no trouble reaching singular orgasms either by yourself or with a partner, then learning how to become multi-orgasmic may only be a matter of patience, determination, and effort. If you do have trouble having singular orgasms or opening up sexually with yourself and your partner, however, then perhaps there are other issues that you need to deal with before multiple orgasms will be a possibility for you. This guide is not prepared to address any problems with orgasms beyond the relatively simple matters discussed in this section. If you are experiencing more serious problems, please consider consulting your healthcare provider or a therapist. They should be able to provide you with the professional advice that we are not equipped to handle.

Ancient Ideas

The concept of being a multi-orgasmic male is not new at all. Ancient Chinese philosophers called Taoists, have known about this and many other profound sexual concepts and practices thousands of years ago. Many of these sexual secrets remain surprisingly unknown, even now in the age of sexual awareness and liberation. Despite the fact that during the 1940s and 1950s several sex researchers in the West studied and confirmed the ability of males to experience multiple orgasms. Even at present, the amount of sexual ignorance, misdirection, and confusion is astonishing.

In Closing

The bottom line is that your ability to have multiple orgasms depends on your overall sexual awareness, and the strength and control of your PC muscle among many other factors. As with all noteworthy achievements, this is not something that can necessarily be accomplished all at once. While reading this guide and having multiple orgasms in one night is certainly possible, you should understand that it could take several weeks or even months before you succeed. Your results will depend on your own personal effort and determination.

Learn more: 
The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know

Monday, November 06, 2006

12 Amazing Sex Tricks He Secretly Wants You to Know

by L. L. Wing

In Beverly Hills, where I live, there's a whole cosmos of sex consultants, coaches, and "healers" who stand ready to enlighten you, under the palm-shaded sun, for jackpot fees ($100 an hour and up). My mission as an intrepid Redbook reporter was to unearth the elite of this exotic, erotic body of experts and reveal to you what knowledge — if any — was worth so much cash.

All roads led to Dr. Ava Cadell. I couldn't wait to ransack her brain for solutions to the foremost knotty dilemma for me and every other woman I know: What can I do to keep sex fresh in my marriage? I left her office stunned and enlightened (not to mention $300 lighter), with a bouquet of wondrous tricks that I didn't know I didn't know — and believe me, you don't either. So listen up.

People should not have sex without talking about it — lovingly, salaciously, practically, fearlessly — and often. How else can we know how to thrill each other? Couples don't ask for what they want because they're afraid they won't get it. If you don't ask, however, you are sure not to get it. The spoken word can be foreplay, intimate and hot. Be brave. Dr. Ava suggests this game. Plan to make a night of it:

a. Set the mood for a romantic evening with your partner. Then write all your sex fantasies on three-by-five-inch cards. All of them, no matter how bestial, or politically taboo.

b. Read your cards together and, as you do, divide them into three piles: fantasies you want to turn into reality (e.g., sex in an airplane lavatory); fantasies you want to keep that way (e.g., sex with your man and another woman); and fantasies that do nothing for one of the partners (e.g., sex with Big Bird).

c. Discard the pile of fantasies that turn a partner off. Keep the other two piles. Have one partner choose a card from one of them, and then do whatever's written on it. If he chooses this time, you get to choose next time. If the chosen fantasy is one you both want to keep a fantasy, you're not going to actually do it -- you're just going to make love as you talk about it. Example: He picks the fantasy where he makes love to you and another woman (most men's number one choice). Start to make love while both of you describe, in exquisite carnal detail, who's doing what to whom and how. To avoid hurt feelings it's best if you describe what the Other Woman looks like. (He'll say "She's 18" -- and you'll get mad.) Make her your physical opposite: If you're small breasted, make her boobs a bonanza. If you're all-American, make her searingly exotic. You get the point. If your man is too shy to join in, ask him questions, like "I can't see her mouth — where is it?" Act things out (with flair!) as you narrate them. Dr. Ava recommends that you end these sessions with your man climaxing inside of you as you rather than as the Other Woman. This will maintain intimacy and quell that green-eyed monster.

Q: When is the missionary position not the missionary position?

A: When you stroke your man's perineum. This small stretch of flesh between the anus and the testicles is an exalted but often neglected place. When it is caressed or gently prodded during sex, men fuse with the eighth dimension. My man sure did; I felt like I floored a Ferrari.

Don't assume that the great favor of your vagina is enough. Gild the lily.

A man's testicles, says Dr. Ava, are the complement to our ovaries: a mystical place, the epicenter of new life. But unlike ovaries, testicles can be touched -- and boy, should they be touched. The sensations they produce are beyond the sum of their parts (forgive the pun): profound. Pinch, tug, suck on his testicles. Linger. Dawdle. Don't make this an afterthought. This is a destination in itself.

It's the anus. Not yours, his. Penetrating a man's anus stimulates his prostate — the male G spot. Do not underestimate the power of this tip-off. The results are titanic.

Most men crave anal play, whether they ask for it or not. Most women, however, do not daydream of fulfilling this desire. I am among them. When I tell Dr. Ava that I would just as soon skip that train stop, she shoots me the mother-in-law look. "Get over it," she says. "Attitudes like that are why men cheat." Yes, ma'am.

Start by lightly circling the outside of his anus with your fingers or tongue. Try a small, thin vibrator. If your man wants you to proceed with penetration, you can lubricate the vibrator, or use a lubricated, covered finger. Buy latex finger cots at the drugstore. They will prevent internal skin tears and, frankly, make the whole transaction easier for you. Prepare for bliss rockets to light his sky. I promise you that his slack-jawed, pinwheel-eyed, puppy-like gratitude will abate any reluctance on your part. I, your intrepid tour guide, now speak from the mesa of Experience. I'll bet Mata Hari used this one.

Smell and taste can be vivid sexual lures, especially the way you smell and taste. Does he really like your signature perfume? Might he prefer something trashier? Spicier? Experiment.

Try bathing with a new scented oil. Walk out in a towel, then ask him to smell you and nibble and share what he thinks. Show him where. Unless you've bathed in skunk oil, his sharing will involve few words.

Play with flavored lubricants. There are dozens to choose from, like chocolate pudding flavor, strawberry, tangerine. Even if you don't really need lubricants for intercourse, they're wholesomely lewd, and they increase sensation.

Some men don't want flavored or scented anything. They crave the smell and taste of an aroused woman, unadorned. If you have such a man, here's a marvelous move: Find a private moment in a public place. Tell him you can't wait to get home 'cause you're wet just thinking about him. Maintain eye contact as you (discreetly! sensuously!) snake your hand inside your clothes to your vagina. Touch yourself; maybe moan a bit. Draw your hand out and put your fingers in his mouth. Say sweetly, "See?"

No woman alive needs to be told that sight is every man's number one stimulus when it comes to sex. This is often the bane of our existence (as when his head swivels in a restaurant like NASA radar). But the power of sight can work for you.

Forget acrylic nails, or those "darling" accessories, or that new workout gear — men couldn't care less. Take that cash and invest in lingerie. It can be demure; it can be enticingly sleazy. "Lingerie" — way above "please" or "thank you" — is the magic word.

When Dr. Ava first suggests this I say, "Oh, please. Lingerie? That old cliché?"

"It is a cliché, my dear," she replies, "for a reason. Remember: Men are not biologically programmed to be with one woman. Anything you can do to be different in bed — or on the floor, or in the closet — you should do. If you want a monogamous man." I make a face. "That's not what women want to hear, I know," Ava drawls, "but it's the truth."

Slinky, lacy black things are classics. Start there.

And speaking of being different in bed, Dr. Ava suggests this trusty personal favorite: Surprise your man by occasionally removing your pubic hair completely (depilatory cream is best; no itchy regrowth). This simple trick is audacious — and mesmerizing.

Masturbate in front of your man. Don't be shy. Describe what you're doing as you do it. Masturbate him while he watches. Tell him his penis is gorgeous. (Wearing spike heels when you say this is always a plus.) If your body isn't perfect, remember: Candlelight can soothe a spectrum of flaws.

Practice makes perfect. And perfecting your orgasms alone will give you the confidence to relax — deux. The first thing you have to do is banish the notion that you must have an orgasm through intercourse. Not a lot of women do, and some who say they do are lying. Most women, however, can climax with masturbation, and it's a great way to learn what really works for you.

Get loose with yourself. Make the time. Wear something hot. Try different kinds of vibrators (Juli Ashton's Pink Pocket Rocket, tiny and powerful, is a real people pleaser. Check it out at Try different positions: on your back, in a chair, kneeling in front of a mirror. Touch yourself in different ways — for instance, play with your labia only until the verge of orgasm, and only then touch your clitoris directly. Build sensations slowly; keep yourself near the verge for as long as you can. Discover what works best for you, and explain it to your partner. Ladies: He can't read your mind.

The good news: You definitely have a G spot. The bad news: Finding it is like playing pin the tail on the donkey.

The G spot is, anatomically speaking, your urethral sponge — a sprig of knowledge I find wildly unerotic. It's our version of the male prostate, best stimulated through the vagina's front wall with your fingers, or with a flexing, antennalike vibrator designed for this quest.

To find your G spot, get yourself nicely aroused; then, inserting one or two fingers, palm up, press slowly around your vagina's front wall, about two inches up. It varies from girl to girl. Before hell freezes over you will hit a dime-size, slightly ridged spot that provokes an urge to urinate. Engrave that location on your brain, then go and do so. When you return, find it again. This time ignore the got-to-go feeling; you'll know it's false. If you keep stimulating, that sensation will bloom into pleasure. Once you've aced this, demonstrate it for your partner.

A favorite intercourse position is optimal for G spot stimulation: Kneel atop your man, legs on either side of his torso. Lean back on his raised knees.

Dr. Ava says G spot orgasms are titanic, intense, different from what the ol' workhorse clitoris can bring. Some women experience an "ejaculation" with these — a milky fluid discharged from the urethral area.

There are times when you just need a condom, no matter how smugly exclusive you are: You have a yeast infection — he has a weird red spot — you're in Hawaii without your Pills. But produce one and you see the face of a petulant toddler veneered on the man you love. It growls, "I'm not using that thing. No way."

The smart woman responds sweetly with: "But baby, I need to practice putting them on with my mouth." Men love this. Let him know it's an old hookers' trick. Here's how it goes:

a. Hold the condom so the rolled edge is facing you.

b. Place it between your lips and teeth that way. Stick your tongue in the middle so tongue-in-condom pokes out just a bit.

c. Put tongue-in-condom on the head of the penis. (If you want to train for this before the actual event, practice on a banana.)

d. Cover your teeth with your lips and ease your mouth over his penis until the condom is unrolled. Make sure you leave some space at the top for semen. And don't conduct this like a relay race. A little finesse, if you please!

Genius, huh? You're welcome.

Do make noise during sex, girlfriend. Dr. Ava says enthusiasm is the number one turn-on for men.

Learn more: Hot Sex

Friday, November 03, 2006

How Ejaculation Volume Enhancers Work

To get a sense of the vital role of a healthy, abundant volume of ejaculate in male pleasure, let's take a look at how male climax works.

Male orgasm happens at the peak of sexual pleasure, when the various muscle groups contract simultaneously: rhythmic contractions of the pubococcygeus muscle (pc muscle) occur along with contractions of the anal sphincter, rectum and perineum, and the ejaculatory ducts and muscles around the penis. The contracting muscles are the key to delivering the load of semen. The first few contractions are intense and close together, occurring at about 0.8-second intervals. As orgasm continues, the contractions diminish in intensity and duration and occur at less frequent intervals.

However, the larger the volume of fluid and sperm that's available for each orgasm, the more contractions it takes to shoot all of it -- and each contraction is stronger and more intense.

That's why several products have hit the market recently that are specifically designed to increase the volume of ejaculate. Some products emphasize more the man's ability to impress a partner (and himself) with a larger, more manly load. But one notable exception emphasizes not just the greater pleasure of climaxing with more semen, but the overall benefits to the male reproductive system. That one is Semenax™, one of our top picks among products for the very sexually active male.

The male sexual system is a complex interplay of many different parts; for maximum pleasure, each must be working in top order at the right time. A good quality male supplement should also enhance the function of each of these vital parts of a man's reproductive system:

Ejaculatory Ducts: The path through the seminal glands which semen travels during ejaculation.

Epididymis: The epididymis is a 'holding pen' where sperm produced by the seminiferous tubules mature. The sperm wait here until ejaculation.

Testes, Testicles: The two testes within the scrotum produce sperm and testosterone. Within each testis is a kilometer (!) of ducts called the seminiferous tubules, the organs which generate sperm.

Prostate Gland: Also produces a fluid that makes up the semen. The prostate gland also squeezes shut the urethral duct to the bladder, thus preventing urine from mixing with the semen and disturbing the pH balance required by sperm.

Seminal Vesicles: The seminal vesicles produce semen, a fluid that activates and protects the sperm after it has left the penis during ejaculation.

Vas Deferens: The ducts leading from the epididymis to the seminal vesicles. Although "volume" capsules and tablets have the specific purpose of increasing sperm and semen production/amount, we feel it's important to always consider overall male sexual health with any program you decide to pursue.

For some men, the issue of improved potency and fertility is very important as well. If this is of concern to you, look for a supplement that increases both volume of fluid AND quantity and health of sperm. Your load will be not only bigger, more impressive and more pleasurable, but more potent as well. Again, Semenax™ scores high across both categories.

The volume tablets may include amino acids (the building blocks of protein) plus herbal concentrates from China, Europe and South America. Look for ingredients that have been proven over decades or even hundreds of years of experience to stimulate sexual activity and increase semen and sperm production in the testis. Some of the listings you'll see include:

L-ARGININE HCL Studies show sperm and semen volume doubles, fertility improves (even among men with low sperm counts or poor sperm motility), and sperm health and activity increase with supplementation.

L-LYSINE Researchers find that this amino acids plus zinc increases sperm produced, stimulates testosterone production, and improves semen quality.

EPIMEDIUM SAGITTATUM Sometimes called "horny goat weed," this botanical boosts libido and testosterone levels for greater sperm production.

ZINC OXIDE Has been shown to increase number of sperm and sperm motility by 80% to 200% by aiding testosterone synthesis.

L-CARNITINE This amino acid is found in high concentrations in healthy sperm. Proven to significantly increase the percentage of highly motile sperm.

CATUABA BARK Brazilian herb that strengthens the libido, and nourishes the entire male reproductive system.

PUMPKIN SEED Supports prostate health and hormonal production. MACA Legendary South American botanical proven to promote libido, potency and energy.