Sexual Health From A To Z

Managing Your Menstrual Pain

2006-11-22T06:19:00.000-08:00

By Olu Bicoy

http://www.medgen.com/

So what makes a woman more susceptible to menstrual cramps?

• Starting your period at an early age (younger than 11 years old)

• Menstrual periods last for more than 5 days

• You are overweight or obese

• Smoking cigarettes or alcohol use

• You have never been pregnant

Menstrual Pain Causes

Prostaglandins are chemicals produced by a woman’s body and they cause many of the symptoms associated with menstrual pain. The tissue lining a woman’s uterus produces prostaglandins, the chemicals stimulate the uterine muscles causing them to contract. Contracting uterine muscles cause menstrual cramps. Women who have high levels of prostaglandins experience more intense uterine contractions, and therefore more intense pain. Prostaglandins may also cause vomiting, diarrhea and headaches.

Although some pain during menstruation is normal, excessive pain is not. The medical term for excessively painful periods is dysmenorrhea.

There are two types of dysmenorrhea:

• Primary dysmenorrhea refers to menstrual pain in healthy women. The pain is not related to any problems with the uterus or pelvic organs.

• Primary dysmenorrhea can be caused by the following:

o Strong uterine contractions

o Anxiety and stress

o Blood and tissue being discharged through a narrow cervix

o Displaced uterus

o Lack of exercise

• Secondary dysmenorrhea is menstrual pain that is attributed to an underlying disease or structural abnormality either within or outside the uterus.

• Secondary dysmenorrhea can be caused by the following:

o Endometriosis (inflammation of the lining of the uterus)

o Blood and tissue being discharged through a narrow cervix

o Uterine fibroid or ovarian cyst

o Infections of the uterus

o Pelvic inflammatory disease

o Intrauterine device

o Abnormal pregnancy, such as ectopic pregnancy

Treatment

If you have primary dysmenorrhea, there are measures you can take to ease your discomfort. However, secondary dysmenorrhea can only be managed by first treating your underlying condition with the help of your physician.

The effects of primary dysmenorrhea can be treated with over the counter pain relief and anti-inflammatory medication, like ibuprofen. Other home remedies for treating menstrual pain include:
• Apply a heating pad to the lower abdomen (do not fall asleep with it on)

• Take warm showers or baths

• Drink warm beverages

• Do light circular massage with your fingertips around your lower abdomen

• Walk or exercise regularly, including pelvic rocking exercises

• Add more complex carbohydrates to your diet such as whole grains, fruits, and vegetables, but decrease your intake of salt, sugar, alcohol and caffeine.

• Eat light but frequent meals

• Keep your legs elevated when lying down or lie on your side with your knees bent

Be sure to see your doctor immediately if you experience menstrual pain and a fever, if your vaginal discharge increases in amount or if it becomes foul-smelling, or if your pain is significant, your period is over one week late and you have been sexually active.

Novasure Cure for Heavy Menstrual Bleeding

2006-11-22T06:06:00.000-08:00

By Dorothy M. Neddermeyer

http://www.gen-assist.com/

Commercials sing the praises of the Novasure® System, the latest miracle cure for heavy menstrual bleeding. It treats the entire inside of the uterus (endometrial cavity) at once. The procedure does not require any incisions, and does not require hospitalization.

A slender device is inserted through the cervix under local anesthesia with sedation, or general anesthesia. Once it is in place, treatment time averages 90 seconds. Most women can resume most of their normal activities in a day or two.

Before endometrial ablation is done using most other methods, it is necessary to thin the lining of the uterus with hormonal medication that induces temporary menopause or with birth control pills. Some of these medicines can have troublesome side effects. Also, with other devices the ablation must then be done at a specific time of the menstrual cycle. The biggest advantage of Novasure® is that hormonal pre-treatment is not needed, and it can be done at any time of the cycle.

What the commercials don’t tell you and your doctor might not either, unless you demand to know the truth, are the adverse effects associated with NovaSure Endometrial Ablation.

As with all endometrial ablation procedures, serious injury or death can occur. The following adverse effects could occur or have been reported in association with the use of the NovaSure® system:

• Thermal injury to adjacent tissue

• Perforation of the uterine wall

• Post-ablation tubal sterilization syndrome

• Air or gas embolism

• Complications with pregnancy (Note: Pregnancy following endometrial ablation is very dangerous for both the mother and the fetus)

• Infection or sepsis

• Complications leading to serious injury or death

So, you can see this medical miracle isn’t total gain—you are simply changing one set of symptoms for another. The only one who gains is the physician who performs the medical procedure and also prescribes the medication in a futile effort to rectify the loss of metabolic chemicals the body needs. You have become a life-time patient for this enterprising doctor.

It is a known fact that Japanese women tend to suffer with menstrual symptoms or hot flashes only about 1/3 as often as American women. Women on vegetarian diets also complain of hot flashes far less than women who eat meat. Of course, you don’t have to give up those steaks–but doctors and nutritional professionals suspect that the difference is largely due to the use of soy products in the diets of these women, and many women have realized that by incorporating some soy in their diets, their menstrual symptoms and menopausal symptoms have abated considerably.

Other important supplements are:

• Flaxseed: High in phytoestrogens (especially lignans), flaxseed also is high in omega-3 fatty acids -- a key helper in fighting heart disease. And, like soy, it’s a good all-round helper in your body. It’s high in phytoestrogens, flaxseed can help minimize symptoms like hot flashes. Studies have shown that it can help lower LDL (the “bad”) cholesterol. Studies have shown that it helps fight breast cancer and other cancers. It can help prevent heavy bleeding -- a common symptom when you’re first beginning to enter premature menopause and going through erratic periods. Because it’s high in omega-3 acids, it help ease symptoms like breast tenderness, cramping, and other PMS-like discomfort.

• Red Clover (available under the brand name Promensil) is another phytoestrogen high in bioflavonoids. Like other phytoestrogens, red clover has been shown to reduce hot flashes, help fight osteoporosis, and generally minimize other menopausal symptoms. But there have recently been other studies that found that it wasn't as helpful as initially believed. As with so many other supplements, the jury is still out.

• Vitamin E and Citrus Bioflavonoids: This combination is a hot-flash buster -- with studies showing that taking these two supplements together helps combat hot flashes. 400 IUs of Vitamin E along with 1200 mg of bioflavonoids taken in the morning and again before bedtime has been shown to reduce the frequency and severity of hot flashes. (One note: Vitamin E isn’t safe for everyone. If you have rheumatic heart disease, high blood pressure, or diabetes, or take digitalis drugs, Vitamin E can be harmful. So be sure to check with your doctor about the appropriate dosage.)

• One study (conducted in the 1960s. . . unfortunately there have been few more recent studies) found that, after only one month, over 50 percent of the 94 participating women taking 1200 milligrams of bioflavonoids along with 1200 milligrams of Vitamin C stopped having hot flashes completely and another 34 percent had a drop in hot flash frequency and intensity. Studies have also shown that bioflavonoids also appear to help relieve moodiness, anxiety, irritability and other emotional side effects of menopause -- and can help fight vaginal dryness. Vitamin E helps with vaginal dryness (you can even use it as a vaginal suppository -- just putting the capsule in your vagina.)

• Vitamin A or Beta Carotene: If you’re suffering from vaginal dryness -- or if you’ve noticed a change in your skin texture, a drying or loss of elasticity, Vitamin A or beta carotene can help. Vitamin A (which is what beta carotene converts to in your body) helps maintain tissues, skin, and mucous membranes—help fight against vaginal dryness and skin changes that often come with low estrogen levels.

• B-Vitamins: This family of vitamins helps in coping with premature menopause, both in terms of helping combat symptoms and fighting negative long-term risks. B vitamins can keep your energy levels up; support your liver function ( a definite plus if you’re on HRT, as oral estrogen is broken down by your liver); prevent vaginal dryness; increase your resistance to infection; help maintain your adrenal gland function -- which is where the precursor to estrone (the form of estrogen still produced by your body after menopause) is produced. B vitamins are considered stress fighters -- so can help you to deal with the emotional symptoms that crop up during premature menopause such as: anxiety, irritability, mood swings, even insomnia.

• In addition, if you’re on HRT, it’s a good idea to be sure you’re getting B-vitamins either through your diet (whole grains, beans and brewer’s yeast are all good sources of B vitamins) or in a multi-vitamin or B-complex supplement, since studies have shown that HRT may cause a deficiency in B2, B12, B6 and Biotin.

• Calcium: A definite must to help prevent osteoporosis, calcium can also help lower blood pressure, reduce triglyceride levels (that sometimes rise in women on some forms of HRT.)

• Magnesium: Magnesium is a very important calcium helper -- and also helps fight the crashing fatigue that often comes at the beginning of premature or early menopause by boosting energy levels.

• Potassium: helps boost energy. It regularizes your heart beat, which can help if you get palpitations -- a fairly common symptom of menopause. In addition, it can help you cope with water retention and bloating, both of which are side effects with certain forms of HRT, particularly progestins such as Provera.

• Black Cohosh: helps cut down on hot flashes and other menopausal symptoms, it help with cramps, heavy periods and other menstrual irregularities. Studies conducted using black cohosh have shown that it appears to be quite effective, especially for hot flashes. And some researchers believe it may help prevent osteoporosis and reduce bone resorption, although no long-term studies conducted on humans have substantiated this.

• Chasteberry (Vitex agnus castus): This (like black cohosh) appears to act like a progesterone and has been used in Europe for many years to alleviate PMS symptoms as well as menopausal symptoms. It may help diminish both LH and FSH and appears to affect your pituitary function. Different studies have found that it reduced menopausal symptoms, particularly hot flashes and irregular bleeding. It is helpful for breast tenderness, primarily because chasteberry suppresses prolactin production. Typically, it takes about three to four weeks to notice results. One note, however: While chasteberry is widely used in Europe, there have been no double-blind placebo studies conducted on it.

• Evening Primrose Oil: A good source of GLA (gamma linoleic acid), evening primrose oil has been used by many women to help fight PMS symptoms -- many of which are the same as menopausal symptoms. It’s a good bet to help prevent bloating, water retention, breast tenderness, cramps and vaginal dryness.

• St. Johns Wort or Sam-E: If you’re finding yourself more easily depressed, St. Johns Wort or Sam-E may help. Widely touted as a natural tranquilizer, this herb helps relieve irritability, depression, and fatigue. Over 23 different studies have found that it’s effective in fighting depression -- when hormone levels plunge suddenly.

• Kava Kava: Helps in reducing anxiety, fighting depression, and leveling mood swings, kava kava has been shown to be quite effective. One recent study found that women with menopausal symptoms taking 100 mg of kava kava three times a day reported a difference after only one week.

• Valerian: If you’re suffering from insomnia, a common symptom, valerian may help. It’s used widely in Europe to treat sleep disturbances, as well as for nervousness and menstrual problems. It’s also known as an anxiety reliever -- so may help with mood swings and tension.

Altering your diet in small ways can have the greatest positive effect on your body. For instance, by staying away from hot drinks, you’re not giving your body reason to “heat up” and produce a hot flash. At the same time, reducing your caffeine intake (which often comes in the form of hot drinks, including coffee and tea) will naturally help you sleep better at night, which will keep your mood and mental state healthy.

Lastly, replacing these drinks with water and juice will keep your bones and muscles well-lubricated, prevent osteoporosis from settling in, and temper your general aches and pains. We know it’s no easy task to give up coffee, but think of the endless benefits of this one relatively minor change to your diet.

One of the most commonly complained about symptoms of menopause is the weight gain that seems to come along with it. Put simply, your body isn’t burning calories in the same way it once was, so if you don’t change your diet–even if it’s already a healthy one – you’re bound to gain a few pounds around the waist.

Changing your diet now, simply by avoiding a few foods that are bound to make other symptoms worse, while increasing the foods high in certain vitamins while remaining low in calories, will help you to maintain your figure while giving your body the nutrients it needs to fight off the worst symptoms of menstruation or menopause.

For instance, foods high in potassium, including most fruits, will help you keep your mind sharp while promoting healthy water flushing throughout your body (which will reduce cramps and bloating), while keeping your muscles and bones lubricated and strong – including your needy joints and your thinning vaginal walls. In short, this is the time in your life when “an apple a day” couldn’t ring more true!

Oily fish--including salmon, tuna, and vegetable oils, are often recommended by nutritionists for anyone wanting to keep their minds sharp. But these oils are also useful in helping keep your muscles from drying, while helping your digestive system.

Everything from Vitamins C and E to herbal remedies such as Dong Quai and Wild Yam Root are superior to abating the menstrual and menopausal symptoms than any pharmaceutical. You can explore the countless ways in which these small changes or additions to your diet will not only combat the unique symptoms you’re going through, but the ways in which you can identify these symptoms quickly to lead a healthy life during your menstrual years and long after menopause.

Let’s talk about soy—it’s been in the news, and for good reason, but where do you start? Many of us would buy a chunk of tofu, which, let’s face it, can be tasteless, but it doesn’t end there, you don’t need to move to Japan to figure out how to add it to your diet. You don’t need to give up eating cheeseburgers to enjoy the occasional veggie burger, but adding some soy to your diet has abated the negative symptoms of menstruation and menopause for millions of women. If you’ve not eaten many soy products, don’t turn up your nose yet–in addition to abating your negative peri- or menopause symptoms, you may find that you actually like it! Not to mention soy is a lot less expensive compared to prescriptions, surgery and negative aftereffects.

Interesting Ways and Unusual Places To Meet Singles

2006-11-20T07:06:00.000-08:00

By Christine Akiteng

http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/

Our parents warned us about talking to strangers, but by age 30, you can tell the difference between the good and the weird ones. If at 30 you still can't tell the weird from the not-so-weird; the not-so-weird from the good ones, then something weird is really going on with you... except of course if you are just re-entering the dating field after many years of absence - then your excuse is valid!

Many of us think that going up to a complete stranger and risk rejection takes guts, I think what it takes is the right mindset and a little strategy - besides what have you got to lose? At least you won’t spend the next six weeks dreaming about a total stranger. .

Below you'll find some unusual haunts, places you may have never thought of as fertile breeding ground - remember all it takes is the right mindset and a little strategy...

Friend-of-a friend

This is how most people meet the love of their lives. This is not just a casual thing on the phone, asking your friend if he or she knows anyone. You must do your homework. Okay, may be he or she will figure out that this is not a chance meeting, but so what? If they are not flattered, they are not interested – and it works out just as well for you.

Personal Growth Seminars.

I am talking about those with plenty of yy and yz-chromosome-interaction. These are really great places to meet compatible people while educating yourself. Don’t leave before the happy hour after the event, this is when people are more open and eager to exercise their minds. Do more listening than talking.

Adult Classes

Night courses, especially are great. For some reason people are friendlier at night and after three hours of someone talking down to them, they're charmed to find someone who wants to hear what they have to say - and that someone is you. But make sure you take those classes that interest you so that even if you do not meet anyone interesting at least you learned something that will help your life or career.

Pet Love

Walk your dog, cat, bird, snake or whatever, but don’t take Fido, Cruise or Paris for just any walk—bring him or her to the local park or in a busy apartment complex. Look around, make eye contact, smile, start a conversation about dogs, cats etc. that should be easy...

Christening Parties

These places have tons of personality since most people are forced to spend at least a few hours in one place out of sheer politeness. Find an excuse to do something near your target – change a CD, grab some hors d’oeuvres or enlist the host/hostess’ help and just go and stand over there. The idea is to catch their eye and smile. If she/he seems friendly close the gap and introduce yourself.

Home Depot and Hardware Stores

These chains offer enough hunting potential opportunities to warrant a category of their own. There is an abundance of available men and women (believe it or not!) roaming the aisles for tools, fixtures, wood—and dates. These days everybody is impressed by a man or woman who can fix their own faucet - I think it's the thought of muscles that look like machines.

Action-filled group excursions

You’ll be surprised at how many 30+ eligible singles are discovering that adventure and doing the things that one is passionate about can stimulate a new love. If you don’t meet anyone special, nothing is lost because the activity was rewarding enough.

The Office

Not surprising that two-thirds of people meet their partners through work. The great thing about office hook –ups is that there are a million ways to chat them up, just make sure they are not married to the boss - or high strung - otherwise you'll find yourself staring one huge sexual harassment suit in the face.

Cyber-Networking

Online dating is more mainstream than ever—and it’s even taking cool new strides with video chat. All you need is the latest version of Flash, a DSL or cable connection and a recent browser—and some sites even offer to send you a free Web cam to get started.

The Supermarket

Those new wide aisles aren’t for easy cart access alone, they’re for flirting in. Besides you can tell a lot about somebody by what’s in their shopping cart. Disposable diapers and cartons of Cool-Aid says: "married with children". Chocolate cookies and ready made dinner is definitely single. Just one word of warning, some couples split while shopping. Best time to catch the single ones is late like ten or eleven in the night, you’ll spot them easily – they look single!

The Laundry Mart

A terrific place to check out their underwear without having to take it off them. Pick one just around the coffee shop to satisfy your caffeine cravings; and while your clothes are whooshing and sizzling in the dyers you are trying to ignite a fire of your own.

Airports and Transit Stations

True, airports are a hassle these days, but all that hustling and bustling can actually be a breeding ground for, well, breeding! It’s even possible to bond over bad service. It’s all about attitude and a healthy dose of confidence.

Dinner - and a Date

Find some places where people eat out alone or join one of those clubs that sets up dinner parties of four single men and four single women who share similar backgrounds and interests. If love doesn’t bloom, at least you’ll have had a great meal and good conversation – it’s just like a date but with nobody in particular!.

While this article is about the new and unusual haunts for meeting single men and woman, never forget that your dating success rests largely on yourself. This means that you’ve done the work necessary to have a stable, balanced lifestyle, have a strong sense of self-esteem and confidence, have put closure to unfinished business from the past, and have a clear vision of who you are, what you want, and what you stand for (both as an individual and for a life partner and relationship). This is your foundation for your negotiable and non-negotiable needs as you date.

Einstein said that there are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing were a miracle. The other is as if everything were a miracle.

Happy Hunting!!

How to Perform Cunnilingus: Tips from the Experts

2006-11-19T11:02:00.000-08:00

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Tip #1: Learn the ABCs of oral sex on her

While every body is different, a few basic things remain the same. Here are some tried and true tips for before, during and after performing cunnilingus:

Share a shower together before you begin so neither of you have to worry about possible unpleasant tastes or odors.
Ask your partner what she likes. At the very least, she can say things like "harder" or "slower" or "more circles."
Fill your own mouth with saliva first. Never touch or lick the clitoris with a dry finger or tongue.
Know where the clitoris is but don't dive straight for it. First try gentle kissing and licking around the upper thighs and vulva.
Tell her how good she looks, smells and tastes.
Think variety. If you repeat the same motion, your partner may become temporarily insensitive to it, so be sure to vary your stimulation.
Let your hands roam. As she becomes more aroused, insert a finger or two into her vagina.
Some women like to have a finger gently inserted into their anus. If she doesn't like it, don't do it.
Continue to fondle and hold her as she orgasms and after.
The clitoris has more nerve endings than the entire head of the penis. Be gentle.
Unlike men, many women enjoy strong stimulation while having an orgasm. Keep it going until she asks you to stop.

These suggestions should give you a start, but experiment and see what you and your partner enjoy. The greatest tip of all is to relax and enjoy yourself. Enthusiasm goes further than even the best of techniques!

Tip #2: Create an oral pleasure scenario

Again, every body is different. However, some variation on the following plan should work wonders.

Set the scene with candles, fresh flowers, incense, soft music... whatever she prefers. Your thoughtfulness will surprise and delight her.

Make sure she's comfortable. Encourage her to recline on the bed. Place a few pillows behind her head. Make sure she isn't cold.

Don't dive directly for the genitals; spend some time kissing her lips, shoulders, breasts and belly. Stroke her lightly with your fingertips. Tell her how beautiful she is. Move down between her legs and gently kiss, blow, stroke and nibble her belly, inner thighs and hips.

When she's breathing heavily, gently spread her legs and kiss her pubic mound. Nuzzle around for a few minutes, spending time with the different parts of her vulva. Pay attention to her breathing; when she breathes faster, she's enjoying herself more. Take note of what she likes and repeat it.

When she sounds highly aroused -- she may be wiggling around a bit, as well -- spread her labia and gently kiss and tongue her clitoris. Don't hold the clitoral hood back unless she instructs you too -- the clitoris is highly sensitive.

Lick and nuzzle the entire area: vaginal opening, perineum, inner labia and clitoris. If she says or otherwise indicates that she particularly likes what you're doing, spend a little time there.

Wrap your arms around her hips, cupping her buttocks, and get to work on her clitoris. Apply firm pressure with the tip of your tongue in a circular motion. Be patient: you might be here awhile. If she's not responding to the clitoral pressure you're exerting, try some variations. Try tracing the letters of the alphabet across her genitals and clitoris. Try inserting your tongue into her vagina (some women dislike this, so pay attention to her response or just ask her if she likes it). Vary speed, pressure and intensity. Try inserting your fingers or a sex toy into her vagina. Be creative.

When you hear rapid heavy breathing and feel her body start to tense up, she's really enjoying the stimulation you're giving her. Whatever you do, don't stop doing what you're doing. She's probably about to have an orgasm.

Continue to stimulate and hold her while she climaxes. Be warned: women can have much longer orgasms than men and can experience waves of orgasms that last several minutes. Let her enjoy herself and continue to stimulate her until she lets you know you can stop.

Tip #3: Learn how to request (and receive) cunnilingus

While studies show that the majority of men (and lesbian women) enjoy performing cunnilingus; some may still need a little coaxing from you. Hint that if your partner pleases you, you'll take care of them too. Suggest a "69" position. Work cunnilingus into your regular sexual program, but don't expect it every time you have sex. Thank your partner by reciprocating or indulging them in one of their fantasies.

While you're on the receptive end, try to relax. One of the reasons it can take some women so long to reach orgasm is that they don't relax enough to climax. Try not to think about how you smell or taste. Don't worry that you're taking too long; it naturally takes most women longer than men to reach orgasm. Try to relax and enjoy the stimulation your partner is giving you. If you prefer, try closing your eyes and fantasizing. When you're getting ready to have an orgasm, let your partner know so they can concentrate on providing you the rhythmical stimulus you need. Ride the waves until your body is done climaxing. Then thank your partner with a long, juicy kiss.

Tip #4: Surprise her with oral sex props

You don't have to rely solely on your mouth or fingers when "going down south" on your woman. Our tongues and fingers were not made to vibrate, pulsate or gyrate and most of us can't provide unlimited stimulation with them. And, sometimes orally pleasing your partner can be downright tiring. Never fear, there are some special oral sex props that can assist you. Try the following to enhance your oral play repertoire:

When your tongue gets tired of flicking and licking her "love button", try using a clitoral stimulator as a stand-in. A bullet vibe works best, giving you lots of room to continue stimulating the rest of her vulva with your mouth and/or fingers.
Some women enjoy vaginal or anal penetration while having their clitoris stimulated. As mentioned above, you can try inserting a finger or two to stimulate her internally. Next time, try inserting a well lubricated small sex toy that vibrates. Some even have a special curved tip ideal for G-Spot stimulation.
Finally, try using some flavored lube (for your benefit) or even a tingling arousal gel (for her pleasure).

Remember that everyone's body is different. What one woman loves, another woman hates. Talk to your partner about what she likes and dislikes. The more comfortable you are discussing cunnilingus, the more you'll enjoy performing it--but the best way to excel at cunnilingus is lots of practice. Fortunately, your partner should be more than happy to help out!

How Natural Penis Enlargement Programs Work

2006-11-19T10:58:00.000-08:00

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Natural penis enlargement established itself as the number one proven method to develop the size of your penis. The basic principle is that by using exercises you can enhance your girth and length by up to 3 inches.

Your penis is consists of 3 main areas, 2 large chambers on the top (Corpora Cavernosa) and 1 smaller chamber on the bottom (Corpus Spongisum). When you increase an erection your penis fills with blood, filling all these chambers. The Corpus Spongisum is the chamber used generally when you urinate and ejaculate. The Corpora Cavernosa on the other hand, is the main blood holding chamber of the penis, here is where 90% of all blood is stored each and whenever you increase an erection.

Basically, this means it is not possible for your penis to get larger by itself, because the blood that fills the penis is already filling the maximum size of the Corpora Cavernosa. The only real method of penis enlargement is to correctly improve and increase your Corpora Cavernosa. This is only likely through the use of dedicated exercises and techniques made especially for penile growth and development.

Some facts about successful completion of a good natural enlargement program:

The Corpora Cavernosa is a particular size which limits your erection girth and length.
Good enlargement programs force the blood to fill all spaces within the Corpora Cavernosa, extending and enlarging the blood spaces with every session just like a body exercise.
The penis would become a lot fitter, stronger and larger in girth and length, after 2 weeks.
After one month, your erections will become hard and your sexual stamina better as you learn to control your ejaculations.
After 2-3 months, your penis will become permanently larger when flaccid and when fully erect, you may now end the program as your length and girth gains will stay forever.

Benefits You Can Expect

The most important part is the changes you see when you begin exercising. After several weeks, the first thing you will see is that your erections become much harder and thicker than before -- same as when you're extremely aroused. For the reason that the blood circulation has developed and the volume of blood entering your penis has enlarged. Your penis also looks much bigger than before when flaccid, because of the developed blood flow.

After almost a month, you can expect to increase about half an inch in erect length and fullness. At this point, you will also have increased and enhanced the function of your 'PC muscle'. This muscle is positioned just behind your scrotum and plays an important role in ejaculation. By increasing this muscle and developing the control you have over it, you are able to slow down ejaculation and gain your sexual stamina.

If you continue to exercise regularly over the following few months, it's usual to increase around 2 inches in erect length and just over an inch in thickness. This is a good goal to aim for, as it is a reasonable target and is achievable for the majority of men.

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Natural penis enlargement is not impossible. With Penis-Health, the effects will become larger and faster. Only a few minutes everyday and within weeks, you can naturally and safely increase your penis size and obtain a thicker, healthier and well-developed penis.

Penis Length and Girth - Does one Really Care?

2006-11-19T10:52:00.000-08:00

By Marcus Richman

http://www.ultimateshaft.com/

Although it is true that almost every man is concerned about penis size, there are men who have never measured their Penis and aren't too concerned about its length. Looking at the history, there are poets, philosophers, writers and artists who have tried to determine what the average size is for manhood and what is considered above average. In erotic literature it is believed that a bigger penis is the symbol of manhood , sexual power and vigor.

The question "Does size really matter?" is a common question, for both men and women. Men usually are obsessed, more or less about their penis size, while women are obsessed about their breast size. In fact, all of men think of how to find a way to make their member larger. These days, having bigger penis or larger breast is not difficult because the penis enhancement industry has undergone a great development. From penis enlargement pills, patches to creams, penis enlargement exercises and a lot of other natural products, like traction devices, and even surgery, there are various option available. The media and the stories with men with very large penises, has contributed to the already bizarre subject of penis size.

Most specialists agree that the average penis size in erection is between 5.5 and 6.4 inches in length and about 4.7 and 5.2 inches in girth. Another fact that needs to be mentioned is that penis size does not depend of height or hand, feet, and nose, because there is no bone in the penis. But, penis size has some effect regarding the self confidence and self esteem which affect the sexual life in general. Though the length of the penis may have not much to do with sexual pleasure, the girth may have a big importance. It has something to do with stimulating the G-spot which is located about two inches inside the upper wall of the vagina as some therapists explain.

In conclusion , this is still a matter of preference. While most women prefer a big penis because a bigger penis offers her intense pleasure and more pleasurable orgasms, at the questions "what do you prefer over penis length and penis girth a woman answered us that she likes her partner to have “meatier” penis, meaning fuller penis, because in her case the nerves in her vaginal walls, located near the entrance of the vagina and the anus, are better stimulated during intercourse. For this woman, girth has more significance instead of a meatier penis, because it can stretch out the vaginal or anal walls that stimulate the nerves. A penis with increased girth can create friction and sensation that most women crave for during intercourse. Most women say that even though the penis is the most important instrument in love making, it is also important to have a combination of skills, passion and romance that heightens the sensation.

Saying that a man with a small penis is not good is a hasty generalization. Even if size matters, women are in general concerned about the man’s entire package, rather than just the one between their thighs. Women also seek passion, intimacy and emotional connection. See how you will impress her by giving her flowers, sensual massage or a bath with rose petals.

The Best Ways to Handle Physical Contact

2006-11-13T06:44:00.000-08:00

By Tiffany Taylor

Touching/physical contact is an absolutely vital component of seduction.

You can't successfully pick-up a girl without first establishing a basic level of mutual tactility – i.e. before you can move in for the kill by kissing and/or sleeping with her, you MUST first have a regular, healthy amount of touching that works both ways: she flirtatiously puts her hand on your knee, you encircle her waist with your arm and pull her a little closer – whatever form the physical contact takes, it has to be present for you to achieve your final goal of actual seduction.

And that right there is where the problem for many men lies: how can a guy get the ball rolling when it comes to tactility and physical closeness? If the girl's not being tactile, how can a guy develop mutual physical closeness without freaking her out or scaring her away?

Often men just "go for it" and consequently end up making the girl feel uncomfortable or even slightly violated because of their rushed attempt at physical closeness. Other men decide they don't want to risk putting a girl off, so hold back any kind of touching or bodily contact – doing so usually sends out the wrong message: that the guy is either not interested in the girl, or that he's simply too timid to show it, neither of which are attractive scenarios in the mind of a good-looking, fun-loving girl. Okay, so what's the solution to this awkward problem?

Quite simply, you just need to follow a few basic rules or procedures, all of which conform to the personal boundaries of most girls (and therefore don't appear uncalled for or rushed), but at the same time clearly indicate that you're a confident guy who's not afraid of getting to know girls and even showing it through casual, relaxed physical contact. So, let's take a look.

1. Many men think that touching girls in any way when they first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that's simply not true. To form a positive, strong first impression and create an immediate bond with a girl when you first introduce yourself or get talking, casually and gently touch the outside of her right arm while at the same time verbally expressing something.

The outside of a woman's arm is not intimate enough a place for the touch to feel strange or out-of-place, but at the same time it's a clear-cut sign that you're a personable, socially adept kind of guy. Don't be afraid to give it a try – you'll notice the benefits immediately.

2. Once you've started a conversation with a girl, or when you randomly find yourself chatting to a woman you really like the look of, it's important to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport you've already created and also helps build it further, into mutually felt sexual attraction.

You can use something called 'Stealth Tactility' to do this. Quite simply, stealth tactility involves making physical contact with the girl in a disguised way. For example, if she wants to go to the bar or bathroom but doesn't know the way, you can use stealth tactility by placing your hand on her shoulder, drawing her in a little closer, swiveling both of your bodies round until you face in the right direction, then point past other people or obstacles with your other hand to where she needs to go.

3. Lastly, always try to use a 'contact close' when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss.

Many men think that the hard work's been done once something's been arranged for a later date, but making physical contact before you part with a girl is always a great way of ensuring she remembers you and really cannot wait to see you again.

Learn more: How to Chat-up Women

Male multiple orgasm. How to become "multi-orgasmic"

2006-11-10T10:24:00.000-08:00

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Any man can become "multi-orgasmic". It only requires a basic understanding of male sexuality and certain techniques. Most men’s sexuality is focused on the goal of ejaculating, rather than on the actual process of lovemaking. Once a man becomes multi-orgasmic he will not only be able to better satisfy himself, but also more effectively satisfy his partner.

Technically, multiple orgasms occur in succession, without complete loss of sexual arousal in between. Women are blessed with the ability to have multiple orgasms. Not many are aware that men with proper training, can actually do the same. In the case of women, multiple orgasm means resuming sexual stimulation shortly after a first orgasmic climax, usually immediately or within a few minutes, so that a second climax may be reached. If the woman does indeed experience further climaxes during the same sexual encounter, she is said to be multi-orgasmic.

Most men mistakenly believe that being able to regain their erection as soon as possible after ejaculation and reaching another climax within some arbitrary period of time qualifies as being multi-orgasmic. This is false because the true multi-orgasmic male does not lose his erection between orgasms. Multiple male orgasms include only orgasm and not ejaculation. The only exception being, when ejaculation accompanies the final orgasm in a multi-orgasmic experience.

Before continuing it would be important to better understand the technical process involved in the " Sexual Arousal Cycle" *

1. Excitement Phase

Vasocongestion
Erection
Increased heart rate
Partial testicular elevation and size increase (Tumescence)
Nipple erection

2. Plateau Phase

Further increase in penis tip size and testicles
Full testicular elevation
Purple hue on corona (although not always)
Cowper’s gland (pre-cum) secretions
Hyperventilation

3. Orgasm Phase (Consists of Emission & Ejaculation)

Emission

Sperm and fluid are expelled from the vas deferens, seminal vesicles and prostate gland, causing seminal fluid fluid to collect at the base of the urethral bulb near the prostate.
Myotonia – muscular rigidity just before the release tension
Blood pressure and respiratory rate increase further.

Ejaculatory Inevitability (point of no return) There is a consciousness of imminent ejaculation.

Ejaculation

Bladder sphincter closes tightly
Rhythmic contractions of the prostate, perinial muscles and penile shaft propel semen outward.
A slight clouding of consciousness

4. Resolution Phase

Erection loss
Testes descend and scrotum thins
Reversal in myotonia and vasocongestion
Reduced heart rate and lowered blood pressure.

Multiple orgasms versus Ejaculatory orgasms

Both begin in the same way, moving from arousal until a point near ejaculation or "point of no return". At this point a man will experience a series of genital contractions lasting three to five seconds. These contractions are "pelvic orgasms" and at first feel like a "fluttering" or mild release of pressure. Once identified and controlled, these sensations will become progressively more intense.

When approaching "the point of no return" the goal is not to crest over into ejaculation but to decrease stimulation, just long enough to gain control over the arousal rate. Effective control can be achieved by squeezing the PC muscles. Learning to control the PC muscles is essential to sexual health and stamina.

In the diagram below, the plateau stage is represented roughly as a heightened state of arousal which will eventually lead into orgasm if stimulation is allowed to continue.

Notice how the two charts differ. In a typical singular orgasm including ejaculation, the plateau phase is reached and passed fairly quickly as the orgasm subsides and ejaculation occurs. In a multiple orgasmic encounter, the plateau phase is reached and sustained after the initial orgasm and between the next orgasm. The successive orgasms are also slightly stronger than the previous ones, if and when the man decides to ejaculate with the final orgasm. Ejaculation is optional, after several orgasms it may be decided not to ejaculate at all. In which case, the arousal pattern closely follows that of a woman and gradually declines over about an hour's time instead of declining very sharply after ejaculation.

How is multiple orgasm possible?

The male and female sexual "response cycles" are strikingly similar. The primary difference between the two is male ejaculation. Multi-orgasmic women are able to have successive orgasms if stimulation is resumed shortly after the first orgasm because they do not ejaculate (not withstanding reports that some women are able to ejaculate, as this has never been adequately scientifically explained).

Ejaculation initiates the refractory period in males. During this time, most men are unable to achieve another erection or even receive further stimulation due to the loss of sexual tension and the penis is usually too sensitive to touch. Since women are not biologically programmed to ejaculate, they do not have this annoying feature and are able to learn about and achieve multiple orgasms much easier than men.
The first key to understanding how men can have multiple orgasms is to understand that orgasm and ejaculation are distinct events, which one can learn to distinguish and separate. Most men have always accepted orgasm and ejaculation as one in the same because they happen in such rapid succession, orgasm beginning slightly before (ejaculation) then tapering off during ejaculation.

The second key to navigating the path to multiple orgasm is gaining the ability to separate orgasm and ejaculation.

The ability to separate these events involves the pubococcygeal muscle, or pelvic floor muscle, or "PC muscle" as it’s more commonly known. You may know this muscle for its ability to stop the flow of urine in mid-stream. If stopping the flow is difficult, you have a weak PC muscle. If this is the case you will need to work on strengthening the PC muscle before you'll be able to have multiple orgasms. If you squeeze or contract the PC muscle you should feel like everything deep in your pelvis is being drawn upward.

Breathing Exercises

Sit in a comfortable position relaxing the shoulders.
Place hands on the abdomen, just below the belly button.
Inhale deeply. Breathing deeply through the nose, so that the belly pushes out.
Exhale fully. Exhale to a point to a point of which the belly contracts back to the spine. The pelvis and testicles may feel as if they are pulling up slightly.
Repeat this exercise from 9 to 36 times.

Preparing yourself

Having multiple orgasms as a male is pretty remarkable, but it will take a great deal of preparation. As mentioned earlier, one of the first steps is to discover the PC muscle. It’s essential to become intimately familiar with this muscle in order to learn to control it very precisely. Some of this control will come with experience, but most will come by strengthening it through regular exercise. Once it’s been discovered where it is (most easily while urinating), it can be exercised anywhere, without anyone knowing.

Practicing

You can begin experimenting on your own at first (while masturbating).
Make yourself comfortable and then begin masturbating as you might normally.
Stop just before you reach the point of no return (the point where you would ejaculate). Contract (squeeze) and hold your PC muscle for a count of ten.
Allow yourself relax and take a few minutes break.
Begin masturbating again, this time bringing yourself just a bit closer to the point of no return, again contracting your PC muscle.
Continue masturbating while paying very special attention to your own state of arousal and emotional feelings. The key here is to learn more about your own sexual response so that down the road you'll be more in control of it.

Stopping "right" before ejaculation

Continue masturbating, except this time, keep going until you reach orgasm. Right as you orgasm you should notice several contractions that signal the beginning of ejaculation in the base of your penis and perhaps even deeper inside your pelvis. As these contractions begin or preferably just before (but still during the orgasm), stop all stimulation to the penis and squeeze the PC muscle tight. You'll probably feel yourself trying to ejaculate, but hold it back! Squeezing your PC muscle effectively shuts off your ejaculation, if you are successful, and erases the refractory period.

A small amount semen may seep out, but not with any of the force you might normally experience during an unrestrained singular orgasm. If you were able to hold off ejaculating after your orgasm, start masturbating again now. It should feel as though you are still very aroused, not like you just ejaculated. You should be able to continue for a short time until you have another orgasm.

If you were unable to keep from ejaculating the first time, either your PC muscle isn't strong enough yet or you squeezed it at the wrong time. If you begin squeezing too late after the ejaculatory contractions have already begun, it is nearly impossible to shut stop the process completely. With practice you will learn the timing.

Partnering

There are many possible techniques you can use to greatly increase your success in becoming multi-orgasmic. Perhaps the greatest technique you can practice is to share your experiences in becoming a multi-orgasmic man with your romantic partner. If you are eventually successful, this can be a wonderful opportunity for you to significantly increase the pleasure you both receive during lovemaking.

Overcoming problems

Undoubtedly the biggest obstacle most men will report when trying to become multi-orgasmic is failure to squeeze their PC muscle sufficiently during orgasm to ward off ejaculation. You may feel some contractions, but do not stop squeezing at this point because a few ejaculatory contractions are likely even if you are successful in eventually stopping them. If you are successful, the contractions will stop before you ejaculate and you should be able to resume stimulation without a loss of sensitivity, as would be present during the refractory period after ejaculation.

Another common problem many men may report with these techniques is failing to determine exactly where the boundaries of plateau, orgasm, and ejaculation begin and end. If you cannot determine the difference between orgasm and ejaculation, a key to becoming multi-orgasmic, you can only succeed by accident and not intentionally.

Some men may try to stimulate themselves very quickly and rigorously, and this is not the best way to become aware of your personal level of sexual awareness. Taking the stimulation slower rather than faster will allow you to discover your personal boundaries between arousal, plateau, and orgasm more easily. With these discoveries you will have a much greater chance of learning when to squeeze your PC muscle, when to stop stimulation, and when to relax your PC muscle and resume stimulation to experience another orgasm.

Pelvic pressure after arousal. Pressure in the pelvic area is a natural result of increased blood flow into the genital area. If the level of this pressure is uncomfortable, it will be helpful to breathe deeply, elevate the lower extremities and massage the perineum and testicles lightly. This will help the body assimilate the energy from the testicles to the rest of the body. It would be best also to stay in a reclined position for 5 - 10 minutes.

Other Benefits

It is quite possible that if you have other sexual problems such as premature ejaculation, learning to become multi-orgasmic will help you tremendously during lovemaking. Not only will you be able to greatly prolong the session by suppressing ejaculation until you choose, but you will be free to release your worries and anxiety and focus more on pleasing your partner. The list of positive effects can be nearly endless!

Age

Some men may wonder if age can have any effect on the chances of success in becoming multi-orgasmic. There's no reason why sexually mature men of all ages shouldn't see the same high rate of success, assuming they are sexually active and have a high level of personal sexual awareness.

If you have no trouble reaching singular orgasms either by yourself or with a partner, then learning how to become multi-orgasmic may only be a matter of patience, determination, and effort. If you do have trouble having singular orgasms or opening up sexually with yourself and your partner, however, then perhaps there are other issues that you need to deal with before multiple orgasms will be a possibility for you. This guide is not prepared to address any problems with orgasms beyond the relatively simple matters discussed in this section. If you are experiencing more serious problems, please consider consulting your healthcare provider or a therapist. They should be able to provide you with the professional advice that we are not equipped to handle.

Ancient Ideas

The concept of being a multi-orgasmic male is not new at all. Ancient Chinese philosophers called Taoists, have known about this and many other profound sexual concepts and practices thousands of years ago. Many of these sexual secrets remain surprisingly unknown, even now in the age of sexual awareness and liberation. Despite the fact that during the 1940s and 1950s several sex researchers in the West studied and confirmed the ability of males to experience multiple orgasms. Even at present, the amount of sexual ignorance, misdirection, and confusion is astonishing.

In Closing

The bottom line is that your ability to have multiple orgasms depends on your overall sexual awareness, and the strength and control of your PC muscle among many other factors. As with all noteworthy achievements, this is not something that can necessarily be accomplished all at once. While reading this guide and having multiple orgasms in one night is certainly possible, you should understand that it could take several weeks or even months before you succeed. Your results will depend on your own personal effort and determination.

Learn more:
The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know

12 Amazing Sex Tricks He Secretly Wants You to Know

2006-11-06T05:15:00.000-08:00

by L. L. Wing

In Beverly Hills, where I live, there's a whole cosmos of sex consultants, coaches, and "healers" who stand ready to enlighten you, under the palm-shaded sun, for jackpot fees ($100 an hour and up). My mission as an intrepid Redbook reporter was to unearth the elite of this exotic, erotic body of experts and reveal to you what knowledge — if any — was worth so much cash.

All roads led to Dr. Ava Cadell. I couldn't wait to ransack her brain for solutions to the foremost knotty dilemma for me and every other woman I know: What can I do to keep sex fresh in my marriage? I left her office stunned and enlightened (not to mention $300 lighter), with a bouquet of wondrous tricks that I didn't know I didn't know — and believe me, you don't either. So listen up.

People should not have sex without talking about it — lovingly, salaciously, practically, fearlessly — and often. How else can we know how to thrill each other? Couples don't ask for what they want because they're afraid they won't get it. If you don't ask, however, you are sure not to get it. The spoken word can be foreplay, intimate and hot. Be brave. Dr. Ava suggests this game. Plan to make a night of it:

a. Set the mood for a romantic evening with your partner. Then write all your sex fantasies on three-by-five-inch cards. All of them, no matter how bestial, or politically taboo.

b. Read your cards together and, as you do, divide them into three piles: fantasies you want to turn into reality (e.g., sex in an airplane lavatory); fantasies you want to keep that way (e.g., sex with your man and another woman); and fantasies that do nothing for one of the partners (e.g., sex with Big Bird).

c. Discard the pile of fantasies that turn a partner off. Keep the other two piles. Have one partner choose a card from one of them, and then do whatever's written on it. If he chooses this time, you get to choose next time. If the chosen fantasy is one you both want to keep a fantasy, you're not going to actually do it -- you're just going to make love as you talk about it. Example: He picks the fantasy where he makes love to you and another woman (most men's number one choice). Start to make love while both of you describe, in exquisite carnal detail, who's doing what to whom and how. To avoid hurt feelings it's best if you describe what the Other Woman looks like. (He'll say "She's 18" -- and you'll get mad.) Make her your physical opposite: If you're small breasted, make her boobs a bonanza. If you're all-American, make her searingly exotic. You get the point. If your man is too shy to join in, ask him questions, like "I can't see her mouth — where is it?" Act things out (with flair!) as you narrate them. Dr. Ava recommends that you end these sessions with your man climaxing inside of you as you rather than as the Other Woman. This will maintain intimacy and quell that green-eyed monster.

Q: When is the missionary position not the missionary position?

A: When you stroke your man's perineum. This small stretch of flesh between the anus and the testicles is an exalted but often neglected place. When it is caressed or gently prodded during sex, men fuse with the eighth dimension. My man sure did; I felt like I floored a Ferrari.

Don't assume that the great favor of your vagina is enough. Gild the lily.

A man's testicles, says Dr. Ava, are the complement to our ovaries: a mystical place, the epicenter of new life. But unlike ovaries, testicles can be touched -- and boy, should they be touched. The sensations they produce are beyond the sum of their parts (forgive the pun): profound. Pinch, tug, suck on his testicles. Linger. Dawdle. Don't make this an afterthought. This is a destination in itself.

It's the anus. Not yours, his. Penetrating a man's anus stimulates his prostate — the male G spot. Do not underestimate the power of this tip-off. The results are titanic.

Most men crave anal play, whether they ask for it or not. Most women, however, do not daydream of fulfilling this desire. I am among them. When I tell Dr. Ava that I would just as soon skip that train stop, she shoots me the mother-in-law look. "Get over it," she says. "Attitudes like that are why men cheat." Yes, ma'am.

Start by lightly circling the outside of his anus with your fingers or tongue. Try a small, thin vibrator. If your man wants you to proceed with penetration, you can lubricate the vibrator, or use a lubricated, covered finger. Buy latex finger cots at the drugstore. They will prevent internal skin tears and, frankly, make the whole transaction easier for you. Prepare for bliss rockets to light his sky. I promise you that his slack-jawed, pinwheel-eyed, puppy-like gratitude will abate any reluctance on your part. I, your intrepid tour guide, now speak from the mesa of Experience. I'll bet Mata Hari used this one.

Smell and taste can be vivid sexual lures, especially the way you smell and taste. Does he really like your signature perfume? Might he prefer something trashier? Spicier? Experiment.

Try bathing with a new scented oil. Walk out in a towel, then ask him to smell you and nibble and share what he thinks. Show him where. Unless you've bathed in skunk oil, his sharing will involve few words.

Play with flavored lubricants. There are dozens to choose from, like chocolate pudding flavor, strawberry, tangerine. Even if you don't really need lubricants for intercourse, they're wholesomely lewd, and they increase sensation.

Some men don't want flavored or scented anything. They crave the smell and taste of an aroused woman, unadorned. If you have such a man, here's a marvelous move: Find a private moment in a public place. Tell him you can't wait to get home 'cause you're wet just thinking about him. Maintain eye contact as you (discreetly! sensuously!) snake your hand inside your clothes to your vagina. Touch yourself; maybe moan a bit. Draw your hand out and put your fingers in his mouth. Say sweetly, "See?"

No woman alive needs to be told that sight is every man's number one stimulus when it comes to sex. This is often the bane of our existence (as when his head swivels in a restaurant like NASA radar). But the power of sight can work for you.

Forget acrylic nails, or those "darling" accessories, or that new workout gear — men couldn't care less. Take that cash and invest in lingerie. It can be demure; it can be enticingly sleazy. "Lingerie" — way above "please" or "thank you" — is the magic word.

When Dr. Ava first suggests this I say, "Oh, please. Lingerie? That old cliché?"

"It is a cliché, my dear," she replies, "for a reason. Remember: Men are not biologically programmed to be with one woman. Anything you can do to be different in bed — or on the floor, or in the closet — you should do. If you want a monogamous man." I make a face. "That's not what women want to hear, I know," Ava drawls, "but it's the truth."

Slinky, lacy black things are classics. Start there.

And speaking of being different in bed, Dr. Ava suggests this trusty personal favorite: Surprise your man by occasionally removing your pubic hair completely (depilatory cream is best; no itchy regrowth). This simple trick is audacious — and mesmerizing.

Masturbate in front of your man. Don't be shy. Describe what you're doing as you do it. Masturbate him while he watches. Tell him his penis is gorgeous. (Wearing spike heels when you say this is always a plus.) If your body isn't perfect, remember: Candlelight can soothe a spectrum of flaws.

Practice makes perfect. And perfecting your orgasms alone will give you the confidence to relax — deux. The first thing you have to do is banish the notion that you must have an orgasm through intercourse. Not a lot of women do, and some who say they do are lying. Most women, however, can climax with masturbation, and it's a great way to learn what really works for you.

Get loose with yourself. Make the time. Wear something hot. Try different kinds of vibrators (Juli Ashton's Pink Pocket Rocket, tiny and powerful, is a real people pleaser. Check it out at www.lasextoys.com). Try different positions: on your back, in a chair, kneeling in front of a mirror. Touch yourself in different ways — for instance, play with your labia only until the verge of orgasm, and only then touch your clitoris directly. Build sensations slowly; keep yourself near the verge for as long as you can. Discover what works best for you, and explain it to your partner. Ladies: He can't read your mind.

The good news: You definitely have a G spot. The bad news: Finding it is like playing pin the tail on the donkey.

The G spot is, anatomically speaking, your urethral sponge — a sprig of knowledge I find wildly unerotic. It's our version of the male prostate, best stimulated through the vagina's front wall with your fingers, or with a flexing, antennalike vibrator designed for this quest.

To find your G spot, get yourself nicely aroused; then, inserting one or two fingers, palm up, press slowly around your vagina's front wall, about two inches up. It varies from girl to girl. Before hell freezes over you will hit a dime-size, slightly ridged spot that provokes an urge to urinate. Engrave that location on your brain, then go and do so. When you return, find it again. This time ignore the got-to-go feeling; you'll know it's false. If you keep stimulating, that sensation will bloom into pleasure. Once you've aced this, demonstrate it for your partner.

A favorite intercourse position is optimal for G spot stimulation: Kneel atop your man, legs on either side of his torso. Lean back on his raised knees.

Dr. Ava says G spot orgasms are titanic, intense, different from what the ol' workhorse clitoris can bring. Some women experience an "ejaculation" with these — a milky fluid discharged from the urethral area.

There are times when you just need a condom, no matter how smugly exclusive you are: You have a yeast infection — he has a weird red spot — you're in Hawaii without your Pills. But produce one and you see the face of a petulant toddler veneered on the man you love. It growls, "I'm not using that thing. No way."

The smart woman responds sweetly with: "But baby, I need to practice putting them on with my mouth." Men love this. Let him know it's an old hookers' trick. Here's how it goes:

a. Hold the condom so the rolled edge is facing you.

b. Place it between your lips and teeth that way. Stick your tongue in the middle so tongue-in-condom pokes out just a bit.

c. Put tongue-in-condom on the head of the penis. (If you want to train for this before the actual event, practice on a banana.)

d. Cover your teeth with your lips and ease your mouth over his penis until the condom is unrolled. Make sure you leave some space at the top for semen. And don't conduct this like a relay race. A little finesse, if you please!

Genius, huh? You're welcome.

Do make noise during sex, girlfriend. Dr. Ava says enthusiasm is the number one turn-on for men.

Learn more: Hot Sex

How Ejaculation Volume Enhancers Work

2006-11-03T12:11:00.000-08:00

http://www.volume-enhancer.com

To get a sense of the vital role of a healthy, abundant volume of ejaculate in male pleasure, let's take a look at how male climax works.

Male orgasm happens at the peak of sexual pleasure, when the various muscle groups contract simultaneously: rhythmic contractions of the pubococcygeus muscle (pc muscle) occur along with contractions of the anal sphincter, rectum and perineum, and the ejaculatory ducts and muscles around the penis. The contracting muscles are the key to delivering the load of semen. The first few contractions are intense and close together, occurring at about 0.8-second intervals. As orgasm continues, the contractions diminish in intensity and duration and occur at less frequent intervals.

However, the larger the volume of fluid and sperm that's available for each orgasm, the more contractions it takes to shoot all of it -- and each contraction is stronger and more intense.

That's why several products have hit the market recently that are specifically designed to increase the volume of ejaculate. Some products emphasize more the man's ability to impress a partner (and himself) with a larger, more manly load. But one notable exception emphasizes not just the greater pleasure of climaxing with more semen, but the overall benefits to the male reproductive system. That one is Semenax™, one of our top picks among products for the very sexually active male.

The male sexual system is a complex interplay of many different parts; for maximum pleasure, each must be working in top order at the right time. A good quality male supplement should also enhance the function of each of these vital parts of a man's reproductive system:

Ejaculatory Ducts: The path through the seminal glands which semen travels during ejaculation.

Epididymis: The epididymis is a 'holding pen' where sperm produced by the seminiferous tubules mature. The sperm wait here until ejaculation.

Testes, Testicles: The two testes within the scrotum produce sperm and testosterone. Within each testis is a kilometer (!) of ducts called the seminiferous tubules, the organs which generate sperm.

Prostate Gland: Also produces a fluid that makes up the semen. The prostate gland also squeezes shut the urethral duct to the bladder, thus preventing urine from mixing with the semen and disturbing the pH balance required by sperm.

Seminal Vesicles: The seminal vesicles produce semen, a fluid that activates and protects the sperm after it has left the penis during ejaculation.

Vas Deferens: The ducts leading from the epididymis to the seminal vesicles. Although "volume" capsules and tablets have the specific purpose of increasing sperm and semen production/amount, we feel it's important to always consider overall male sexual health with any program you decide to pursue.

For some men, the issue of improved potency and fertility is very important as well. If this is of concern to you, look for a supplement that increases both volume of fluid AND quantity and health of sperm. Your load will be not only bigger, more impressive and more pleasurable, but more potent as well. Again, Semenax™ scores high across both categories.

The volume tablets may include amino acids (the building blocks of protein) plus herbal concentrates from China, Europe and South America. Look for ingredients that have been proven over decades or even hundreds of years of experience to stimulate sexual activity and increase semen and sperm production in the testis. Some of the listings you'll see include:

L-ARGININE HCL Studies show sperm and semen volume doubles, fertility improves (even among men with low sperm counts or poor sperm motility), and sperm health and activity increase with supplementation.

L-LYSINE Researchers find that this amino acids plus zinc increases sperm produced, stimulates testosterone production, and improves semen quality.

EPIMEDIUM SAGITTATUM Sometimes called "horny goat weed," this botanical boosts libido and testosterone levels for greater sperm production.

ZINC OXIDE Has been shown to increase number of sperm and sperm motility by 80% to 200% by aiding testosterone synthesis.

L-CARNITINE This amino acid is found in high concentrations in healthy sperm. Proven to significantly increase the percentage of highly motile sperm.

CATUABA BARK Brazilian herb that strengthens the libido, and nourishes the entire male reproductive system.

PUMPKIN SEED Supports prostate health and hormonal production. MACA Legendary South American botanical proven to promote libido, potency and energy.

Satisfying Your Partner - Top Mistakes Guys Make

2006-11-01T06:32:00.000-08:00

http://www.net-planet.org

Men very often do not satisfy their partners as they make basic fundamental errors, all are easily corrected and are generally related to the differences in the male and female psyches.

So what are the top mistakes guys make?

Let's look and find out and discover how to be a better lover that your partner will certainly appreciate!

As a general rule men tend to be more easily turned on than women, women need generally a lot more foreplay to derive maximum sexual satisfaction. Secondly the sexual act tends to be less important and women want to feel wanted and appreciated.

These are common mistakes men make when trying to satisfy their partner.

1. Not enough foreplay

Most women like lots of foreplay before sexual intercourse and most women nearly 90% claimed that kissing was one of the biggest turn one's to them.

Foreplay should be varied, have an element of surprise, passion and desire and all or most of the erogenous zones should be targeted

2. Don't neglect all the Female erogenous zones

Of course, most men know the obvious ones: the clitoris, the breasts and the lips but there are many more to explore and they include:

The neck

Most women simply adore their necks being kissed and nibbled.

The spine and lower back

Running your tongue along the spine is highly erotic and the area above the buttocks at the base of the spine is extremely sensitive and will drive your wild with desire.

The buttocks

Most women have a complex about their bottoms, so show them you love them by feeling, stroking and kissing it.

Not only is it a turn on for her, it will show her you really care.

The Feet

Many women find having their feet played with incredibly erotic and if you kiss, lick and massage them, most women will adore it.

Legs

The back of the knees are incredibly sensitive and the inner thighs are just the same, so target these areas with passion.

Try and target some or all of the above, take your time, do them with passion and your partner will be relaxed, aroused and ready for sexual intercourse.

3. Best positions for sex

Don't think the more complicated the position the better it is, this not so.

There are around 5 positions that are excellent, they will add variety to your sex life and do the all important job of targeting the G and U spots.

There is not enough room to cover them all here, but they are explained in greater depth in our other articles.

The key is to focus on the G and U Spots and forget all the complicated positions where you need to be double jointed, or an Olympic athlete to perform them, stick with positions that give you both maximum pleasure.

4. Find out what your partner really wants

Do you know what your partner really wants?

If you don't you need to start asking and communicating what she really likes, don't just assume.

Many couples are to afraid to talk openly about sex to each other, don't make the same mistake.

5. When it's over it's over

No its NOT!

Many men assume that once intercourse has taken place there is no more to be done and their off for a shower!

Big mistake.

Most women enjoy sex more, if they feel they are appreciated wanted and desired.

When you have finished making love, make a point of staying with your partner telling her how much you love her, enjoyed it and kiss and caresse her.

Trust me, most women love this and this gesture will be highly appreciated.

As a general rule women love to feel wanted and need much more time to become fully aroused than men.

Bringing women to orgasm is much harder than it is for a man and proper foreplay and G and U spot targeting are needed.

Finally, whatever you do surprise your women, show her you love her and do any of the above with passion and desire and your partner will appreciate you for it!

10 Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women

2006-10-28T03:29:00.000-07:00

By Michael Deangelo

Here are the top ten reasons why men fail with women and how to make sure you avoid every one of these deadly common mistakes...

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A Nice Guy
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys? Of course you have. Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU. What's going on here? It's actually very simple... Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you. I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT. Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

MISTAKE #2: Trying To Convince Her To Like You
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested? Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently. Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION! Never, ever, EVER. You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". Think about it. If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? But we all do it. When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. Bad idea. One that will never work.

MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission
In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission". Another HORRIBLE idea. Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER. Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you. But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval. Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...

MISTAKE #4: Trying To Buy Her Affection With Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did? If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT. Well guess what? It's only NATURAL when this happens... That's right, I said NATURAL. When you do these things, you send a clear message: "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection". Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

MISTAKE #5: Sharing How You Feel Too Early In The Relationship With Her
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on. Attractive women are rare. And they get a LOT of attention from men. Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME. An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month. And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. That's right. They have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect. And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves. Don't do it. Lean back. Relax. There's a much better way...

MISTAKE #6: Not Getting How Attraction Works For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction. But does the same apply for women? Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on? Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks. Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Think about it. Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman. But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY guy can learn how...

MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age. And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks. There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet... And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys. YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome. Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission. Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women. Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants. Another bad idea... Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of Situation With Women
Now I'm going to blow your mind... A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking. Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES. I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it. And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help! And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating... Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything. If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING. And you KNOW it. It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all. This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want. I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

Nutritional Program for Sexual Dysfunction

2006-10-26T08:37:00.000-07:00

By Michael Janson

http://www.drjanson.com/

When patients come to me for advice about specific medical problems, they usually have been told that they need medication or surgery, and they are seeking ways to avoid those treatments. Sometimes they have already tried medications, which have produced significant side effects.

Usually, they have many treatment alternatives but they have no information about their choices. One example of effective alternatives is the reduction in blood pressure that meditation produces. Others are the dietary changes and exercise programs that lead to lowered cholesterol. Since the medical treatments for these two conditions are often more dangerous than the problems, it is worth seeking safer alternatives.

Dr. Dean Ornish has shown that patients with heart disease can often avoid surgery and reverse their heart disease with a combination of a low-fat diet, meditation, and exercise. Norman Cousins healed his ankylosing spondylitis (a form of arthritis of the spine) with laughter and high doses of vitamin C. He wrote about his experience in the New England Journal of Medicine, and followed this article with a book, The Anatomy of an Illness. Many patients have cured their digestive disturbances simply by avoiding certain foods.

Over and over, we are seeing the results of lifestyle changes in health care. A recent scientific medical conference put on by the American College for Advancement in Medicine was entitled: Lifestyle Medicine—Medicine for the Nineties. Researchers and physicians both attended and taught at this scientific meeting. Much of it related to the role of dietary supplements in medical therapy.

Dietary supplements are amongg the safest and most effective choices in health care. They are almost free of side effects, they are easy to take, they are relatively inexpensive, and they usually enhance many life functions besides the specific condition for which they are being given. Following is an example of how nutritionally oriented physicians might use supplements as part of the treatment for a specific health problem. This is a suggestion that is supported in the medical literature and in the experience of many physicians.

Remember this is an example, not a prescription for you, and the supplement list is in addition to many other health practices. Other supplements may be helpful, and you may not need all of these to get results. For more information on any one supplement, look for its description in Dietary Supplements. No one program is appropriate for everybody, but these suggestions are good starting points from which individual programs can be modified.

Sexual Dysfunction Treatment Programs

The interest and ability to partake in satisfying sexual relations is an important part of living, even well into advanced years. It is an important part of loving relationships. However, there are many causes of sexual dysfunction (loss of interest or ability to take part in sex). This is sometimes called impotence in men.

Any serious medical condition, sexually transmitted diseases, depression or other psychological disorders, fatigue, overwork or simply lack of adequate sleep can lead to loss of libido (interest in sex) or ability. Hardening of the arteries to the pelvic organs may be a direct cause of sexual dysfunction. Of course, loss of interest or ability may also result from relationship problems.

Many poor health habits lead to deterioration of numerous bodily functions, and sexuality is particularly vulnerable. Smoking, obesity, high stress, lack of exercise, fatty acid imbalance (which affects hormones), and alcohol consumption are examples. Chronic problems such as candidiasis, hypoglycemia, allergies, and chronic fatigue syndrome can all lead to sexual dysfunction.

Almost any health-enhancing program of diet and exercise with basic dietary supplements can help the situation. It is also important to deal first with known medical and psychological problems. Even some of these may be helped with nutrition and dietary supplements. Remember to start by changing those harmful life habits. They will not only begin to improve your love life, but they will help to prevent the chronic and lethal degenerative diseases. An initial dietary supplement program that is likely to help is the following:

                                                            AM     PM
Basic Multiple Formula                      3         3
Vitamin C 1000 mg                            2         2
Magnesium aspartate 200 mg          1         1
GLA 240 mg (as borage oil)              1
Vitamin E 400 IU natural mixed      1         1
Coenzyme Q10 100 mg                                 1
Ginkgo biloba extract 60 mg              1         1

If the cause of sexual dysfunction is diabetes, heart disease, or hormonal imbalances, this program is likely to provide some help, but it is only the beginning. There are more vigorous programs for these conditions which may also help restore your sexuality and help you regain your love life.

For women with specific hormonal needs, natural progesterone supplements or natural estrogens may be valuable. For men, testosterone replacement is often part of a total program. (Even for women, there are therapeutic uses of testosterone in the treatment of heart disease and sexual dysfunction.) Hormonal supplementation with DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone) is often of benefit to both men and women. These hormones are prescription medications, and there is a growing number of medical doctors with interest in these modern treatments.

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Sexual Styles Outside And Inside The Bedroom

2006-10-24T04:33:00.000-07:00

By Christine Akiteng

http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/

Knowing your unique needs and the needs of your sexual partner
can be very enlightening. See if you can find a little bit or a
lot of yourself in each of these characters - and I am sure you
will recognize an ex or a present partner in one or many of
these characters. This is not about accusations and excuses but
rather the realities necessary to understand the developing self
and current struggles. The important thing when looking at these
sexual styles is not to try to figure out which sexual type you
or someone is but rather to use this knowledge to improve your
sexual relationships. Pay attention to how your own sexual style
and behaviour makes your partner feel about themselves and the
relationship because your sexual style may be hurting your
relationships..

1. The Sexual Traffic Cop

Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Traffic Cop is what we would
call a typical control freak. They often feel that they were put
on this earth to "put others in their place" and feel obligated
to tell others what is 'right' and what is "wrong". They tend to
think their views, their families, relationships or career are
what everyone should emulate and do not hesitate flaunting them
in public for everyone to copy. They are often critical and
demanding, always giving orders and making up rules. They can be
very picky, impatient and judgmental; constantly giving advice,
correcting or "mothering" others.

Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Traffic
Cop, you will get so many directions and instructions on what
he/she likes and doesn't like. They will tell you how you should
feel and respond and they may demonstrate to you how they want
you to do it to them and ask you to do exactly the way they do
it. You make one "wrong" move and he/she just stops and refuses
to continue. The worst part is that there are so many
instructions that you never seem to remember what they like or
don't like. You feel pressured, controlled and inadequate every
time.

2. The Sexual Beast

Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Beast usually talks loudly -
and dirty. They are the sort of people who are all over the
place and are either disillusioned that others really like them
or do not care if they are liked or not. They have a strong need
to dominate others and to be in charge of things. They may
appear very controlled but are cynical and temperamental, and
easily explode into anger when their authority or intelligence
is challenged. They can be very vindictive and manipulative.
They aren't necessarily angry at the opposite sex it's just that
they confuse aggression and chaos with passion and spontaneity.

Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Beast, you
are not sure whether you are being loved or devoured. His/her
panting, grabbing, slapping, scratching, biting, pushing,
pulling and bestial noises or "dirty talk" reduces the sex act
to its very basic crude level. You are left frightened,
distrustful, unsatisfied and angry but not sure why.

3. The Sexual Martyr

Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Martyr lives with a victim
mentality. They are always telling "poor me" stories, blaming
others for everything that has happened to them. They don't
believe they are lovable or worthwhile and find it difficult to
express their needs or ask for what they want. They've never had
satisfying experiences and feel used and taken advantage of all
the time.

Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Martyr you
sense that "something" in not right but however much you ask,
he/she will never tell. The only way they try to let you know
what is happening is when you try to be intimate their first
reaction is to move away a little or just lie there motionless.
You sort of start getting resentful because you can't read
his/her mind and you feel guilty for not being able to figure
out what is really going on.

4. The Sexual Procrastinator

Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Procrastinator avoids doing
things he/she needs to do or deal with and hates being told what
to do. They ask for advice, make goals and promises but never
actually get to carry them out. They are usually very rational
and reasonable and take themselves seriously. They can be very
talkative, impressionable, sensitive and warm but feel
uncomfortable about getting close to other people and often
avoid these situations.

Inside the bedroom: If you ever get to have sex with a Sexual
Procrastinator consider yourself one of the most patient people
on earth because by the time you get to actually have sex with
this character, you'll have heard all kinds of logical
explanations as to how the mood, timing and the place is just
not right. But even during sex, they will find little problems
to interrupt or force you to stop. You are left feeling
controlled, neglected, desperate and angry.

5. The Sexual Glutton

Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Glutton is a professional at
enjoying him/herself. Sexual Gluttons have low tolerance to pain
or suffering and are often prone to addictive behaviours. They
usually seek out adult toys to play with and when they find
something that gives them pleasure; food, alcohol, drugs etc.
they get completely lost in sensation oblivious of the people
and everything around them.

Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Glutton you
get the feeling you are just a toy for their pleasure. If you
try to change what you are doing to give them pleasure, they
motion for you to keep going, paying no attention whatsoever to
your feelings. While you feel "high and dry" he/she is in
his/her pleasure world. You are left feeling left out,
unimportant, unloved and angry at being used.

6. The Sexual Performer

Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Performer is wildly
enthusiastic about everything. Everything and everyone is always
fantastic, wonderful, amazing, fabulous, great, brilliant etc.
When you meet this character you are almost sure he/she is the
most passionate person you've ever met, yet you get a feeling
that there is something not quite right about his/her passion -
you're probably right. Sexual Performers are people who want to
get close to others, but tend to be so anxious about intimacy
that they often scare others away.

Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Performer
you get the feeling they are putting on a show; they make a lot
of noise and they will do this and do that, frequently changing
positions and telling you over and over how fabulous it is.
They'll even insist sex is better in front of a mirror because
they want to watch themselves perform. Their "pleasure" seems so
exaggerated that you are not sure whether it is sex or their
performance that they like so much. You are left feeling used,
mistrustful and even resentful.

7. The Sexual Idealist

Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Idealist is sensitive, powerful
and very intelligent. They are usually spiritual and
philosophical, and are passionate about the protection of the
environment, cruelty against animals and world poverty. They
desperately want fairness and goodness for everyone and in
everything because their past experiences have been the
opposite. They may be children of divorced or emotionally
isolated and dissociated parents, were adopted or lived with
parents who were kept busy working. Because they have been
abandoned again and again they may be deluded that their work,
relationships and life are perfect and are afraid to look at
life honestly because they fear that their positive outlook may
collapse.

Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Idealist be
prepared to enjoy it not once but twice: first when you hear the
great and wonderful benefits of sex and again after when you
hear a recounting of the just concluded magical experience.
He/she will tell you how sex with you is much better than all
the ones he/she's had all his/her life and what a wonderful
lover you are. You find yourself pressured to perform to similar
or higher standards, just to keep up. But their "ideal" world
leaves you feeling inadequate, not loved for yourself and
mistrustful of their claims.

8. The Sexual Pleaser

Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Pleaser is usually sweet,
cheerful, enthusiastic and nice to everyone. They have a
tendency to confuse love with pity, and a tendency to "love"
people they can pity and rescue. They are overly dependant on
the approval of members of their family, spouse, friends,
colleagues and even strangers. They will go to any lengths and
overboard to please and when they do they will stand there
silently with a "so?" look on their face. They can easily be
manipulated because Sexual Pleasers have a hard time saying "no'
to requests outside and inside of the bedroom.

Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Pleaser,
you will feel wonderful - at first - because they come across as
the super lover. They ask "Do you like this or Am I pleasing
you?" They even go to the lengths of apologizing if you say you
did not like that. After a while you start feeling selfish and
guilty. You sense their desperation and need to please and feel
obligated to him/her but at the same time feel controlled by
their neediness.

9. The Sexual Corpse

Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Corpse is an expert at
repressing his/her feelings. They appear cool, calm and
collected on the outside but deep inside they are anxious,
worried, and fearful. Many have suffered a lot of hurt, pain,
frustration and have been abused as children or by their sexual
partners. They often find it difficult to trust others and to
self-disclose. They don't easily forgive and never forget. Even
if they openly don't say it you get the feeling talking to them
that they are so angry at the opposite sex.

Inside the bedroom: When you have sex with a Sexual Corpse,
their idea of sex is you playing "sex psychic". They never show
emotion or say a word before, during or after sex. Its up to you
to guess how they are feeling or if they like sex with you. Its
up to you to figure out what they want - or if they even like
you. If you ask them if they like something the best they can
come up with is 'Its fine". You are left inadequate, frustrated
and even angry at them.

10. The Sexual Tease

Outside the bedroom: The Sexual Tease is the kind of man or
woman who looks at your partner and makes them wish they were
single. They just love to advertise how "super-sexy" they - they
dress and walk the part. Their whole idea of life is
superficiality - clothes, status etc., and have a habit of
name-dropping or mentioning their connections to famous, rich
and powerful people. They are very competitive with members of
the same sex and are usually very jealous and possessive people.
The Sexual Tease also has problems opening up and making
commitments to another person.

Inside the bedroom: Forget the bedroom - a Sexual Tease comes
on very strong and aggressive, turning you on and driving you
crazy with his/her act. But as soon as there is a possibility
that sex might actually take place, the sexy, hot and wild image
disappears. They start giving excuses or find something else to
do - so that they can tease you some more. And if you actually
manage to have sex with this character - you will be very
disappointed. A Sexual Tease is turned on by the idea of being
wild and sexy but not by the actual act of sex itself. You find
yourself feeling humiliated, used, manipulated and angry.

Conclusion: I believe that there is no "right" or "wrong" way
of making love. Sex is "good" when it makes both of your feel
good about yourselves and about the relationship and it is 'bad"
when it leaves you unhappy and adds to your negative feelings
about yourself, your partner or about relationships. The good
news is that there is something you can always do to become the
lover you are capable of being (listed on my website are some of
the things you can immediately do). The Super Lover is in
everyone of us. What you need first and foremost is deep
insights into the unique, creative and ultimately mysterious
being you are. Second you need an intuitive understanding of the
intricate dynamics of man-woman energies. Learning specific
techniques is NOT enough, you need to know the interplay between
the sexes that is sufficient to evoke a deep connection and
smoldering passion.

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What are the Best Prostate Supplements for Male Health?

2006-10-17T05:29:00.000-07:00

By David Bloom

http://www.herbal-supplements-guide.com/

There are a number of prostate supplements on the market all promising to boost male health and prevent BPH and prostate cancer. But not all of these natural remedies have science behind them, so it's important to choose wisely when it comes to men's health supplements.

By the age of fifty, over half of the male population will face a condition known as benign prostate hypertrophy, an enlargement of the gland caused by the accumulation of DHT, a derivative of testosterone. It can be caused by a variety of factors, including a lack of the mineral zinc, a vitamin B6 deficiency, fatty acid depletion, toxins, bacteria or pesticides. Any of these can contribute to the conversion of testosterone to DHT, causing the gland to swell.

Supplements for prostate health can address these issues, and not only help prevent BPH but also help alleviate the pain and slow the progression of an existing prostate problem. That's why more and more men are turning to natural prostate supplements to give them a fighting chance and decrease their risk of prostate cancer.

One of the most popular and well-researched prostate suppliments is saw palmetto, an herb from a tree native to the Atlantic seaboard. The active ingredient of this herb is beta sitosterol, a powerful compound that can actually interfere with the conversion of testosterone to DHT. As such it can prevent enlargement of the gland. It has also been shown to go one step further and shrink the prostate as well as relieve urinary problems associated with the condition.

Red clover is another of the popular supplements for prostate health, and acts in a similar fashion to saw palmetto extract. It's a member of the pea family, and can inhibit DHT formation through its powerful antioxidant ability.

In addition to the prostate herbs there are vitamins, minerals and other nutrients that can be helpful to men. As we mentioned above, a lack of zinc can exacerbate the problem, so ensuring that your body gets enough of this essential nutrient is crucial. It is also an important part of many other body processes.

The B Family of vitamins can also help; in particular B6 should be present in all prostate supplements. This vitamin regulates the hormone involved in testosterone conversion to DHT. As such it is able to ensure that benign prostate hypertrophy is kept in check, and even prevented.

Another nutrient making headlines is lycopene, which can be found in many popular male formulas. This is a powerful extract from tomatoes which can reduce inflammation and prevent the onset of prostate cancer. Although you can get it from eating tomatoes, a supplement can ensure lycopene content, where the fruit might be lacking by the time it hits store shelves.

Before choosing any supplements for prostate health, make sure you speak with your doctor first and discuss your options. Although many prostate suppliments are available as stand alone products, you might reap more benefits from a comprehensive formula that contains herbal extracts, vitamins, minerals and other ingredients for male health.

Since BPH affects so many men, it's important that we learn as much as we can about this condition. Prostate supplements just might be the answer to the problem.

Tags: health and wellness, love, daily life

Eating Sexy - Aphrodisiac Foods For Hot Dinner Dates

2006-10-11T08:15:00.000-07:00

By Croydon Hounslow

http://www.loopylove.com/

From the sublime to the downright disgusting, since time immemorial man has believed in the aphrodisiac powers of certain foods. Many scholars deny the existence of such powers, yet the belief still clings, perhaps because the idea of the aphrodisiac meal combines two of humanity's greatest pleasures – eating and sex (although you could be forgiven for doubting the former in light of some of the things served up in the name of seduction over the years). Croydon Hounslow looks at the history of aphrodisiac foods, and hopefully suggests some practical ideas that you can try out on a date.

Aphrodisiac foods have a long history, the word aphrodisiac itself is derived from the name of the ancient Greek goddess Aphrodite, goddess of love, fertility and sexual rapture. In olden days, aphrodisiacs were much sought after as promoters of fertility as well as sexual appetite, in light of this perhaps the link between foodstuffs and sex does not seem so tenuous. Sexual appetite and fertility are both linked to nutrition; the better fed a person is, the more likely he or she is to be able to conceive successfully, whilst a malnourished person will be not only less fertile, but less libidinous. It is perhaps hardly surprising then that, in ancient and older modern cultures where malnutrition was common and reproductive imperative for survival, the belief that certain foods were linked to sexual appetite and fertility emerged.

Chief among these aphrodisiacs were foods with a strong symbolism of seed or semen, hence eggs, bulbs, snails etc were favoured for their outward resemblance to testicles, but also aniseed, rocket seeds, sage and pistachio nuts were thought to increase male potency.

So far, so tasty (possibly apart from the snails depending on your tastes) and it does become tempting to attribute the association of foods and sex to a simple parallel between corporeal pleasures; namely that food and sex are the things that we find most enjoyable on a basic level, and that people with full bellies are better disposed to look around for other distractions, but wait! We haven't yet delved into the more stomach churning side of aphrodisiac 'foods'! Fancy a stewed sparrow, anyone? How about a spit of roasted skink (a type of lizard)? The powdered rhino horn is very good tonight, sir, or for the traditionalist there's always the perennial favourite – frog saliva! And yet, the list goes on, i the Kama Sutra is to be believed then the acme of sexy cuisine is a ram's or goat's testicle boiled in sweetened milk!

Really, it's enough to make your stomach turn, and there could be few less sexy or appealing ways to spend a date than with your head buried in the toilet bowl bringing up stewed sparrow and ram's 'nads! So here are a few suggestions for supposedly aphrodisiac foods that you might actually like to try on a date:

First up there's the oysters, rumour has it that the aphrodisiac attributes of the oyster are related to its resemblance to the vagina in appearance and flavour. Make of that what you will, but oysters certainly are a sensuous food, slipping and slurping their way down the throat in an appealingly messy fashion.

For the second course you could try a prawn cocktail served in half an avocado. The name avocado comes from the Aztec 'Ahuacuatl' which translates roughly as 'testicle tree' (just don't think of goats!) and prawns and shrimps when cooked and peeled have an obvious phallic connotation. Alternatively, if you don't want to overdo the seafood, you could try a warm asparagus salad garnished with quail eggs in place of this dish, I'm sure I don't need to explain the underlying symbolism there!

For a main course, why not try pasta in a garlic and truffle sauce? The rich, dark aroma and flavour of truffles has strong connects with the earth mother/fertility goddess mythology, and the heat generated by a liberal dose of garlic is supposed to engender a different kind of heat elsewhere in the body. Obviously with garlic heavy recipes it is important to ensure that both parties indulge if the evening is to continue as planned!

And to finish? What else but chocolate? Chocolate contains many substances which directly affect the brain, not least theobromine, which is similar to caffeine (also thought to have aphrodisiac qualities). Sweet and spicy foods also have the effect of making you feel indulgent and pampered, which is the ideal state for seduction. The ideal dessert for your aphrodisiac banquet then would be a rich, dark chocolate and espresso mousse, bittersweet and tangy. Of course, that is assuming that you make it to the dessert stage!

In seriousness, it is highly doubtful that eating a meal like the one described above will have any effect on your sexual prowess and/or fertility, but indulging yourself and your partner can hardly be a bad thing as a prelude to a night of passion. If you seriously want to improve your sex drive through diet, then eat plenty of fish and fresh vegetables and stick to a low alcohol, low cholesterol diet as part of a long term approach.

Bon Appetit!

Female Masturbation: Five Ways To Improve Your Orgasms

2006-10-10T12:24:00.000-07:00

By Abbie Acworth

http://www.sextingles.co.uk/

Perhaps you find sex and masturbation enjoyable and fun but did you realise they maybe more satisfaction available if only you tried some other ideas out? It is easy to fall into a rut: you have found one method that works well and naturally you rely on it. Perhaps you don't realise it but your masturbation method can have a large effect on how your orgasm feels. It is often said variety is the spice of life. This can be applied to masturbation just as well. Vary the masturbation method and let the sexual spice in.

It worth thinking first about how you masturbate normally. Maybe you have one main method with a few slight variations. Maybe you vary your methods a lot - if so you will probably be already aware of the benefit of using a variety of methods, but hopefully you will find something new here. Masturbate your normal way(s) and make mental notes or even write notes down on how you do it and even how it feels.

Then use the following suggestions, where they apply, to vary your approach. Try to follow the ideas closely but don't get too serious - sex above all should be fun!

Here are five suggestions. After working through them you can try combining some of them to make even more variations:
Lubrication - the liberated feeling

Masturbating when dry feels uncomfortable and is likely to make you sore. You may have enough natural lubrication for normal masturbation. For a new feel try masturbating using a generous amount of sex lubricant.

Buy some lubricant preferably water based. Lie on something suitable (that you can wash) and then apply a lot of lubricant. I mean a lot! Smother your crotch with the slippery stuff! You will probably find doing this will be sexy, indulgent and liberating. Masturbate using your normal method. It will probably feel very different and bring you to a very satisfying orgasm.
Fast Or Slow - try the reverse

There are some very basic ideas that you may not have tried - at least not tried since you have been in that rut. One of these is to vary the speed of your normal method of stimulation and also how quickly you achieve orgasm.

Try using a varying the speed of stroking from usual. One time masturbate faster, another very fast and another slower or very slow. Keep to that speed for the whole session and see if you can reach orgasm without changing it. You may find you cannot get to orgasm sometimes - if so consider stopping and trying again another time. This hopefully will train you to achieve orgasm through a wider range of sensations. If you can't quite get to orgasm and can't bear to stop change to a speed that you know will work to get you there.

By using these techniques, try also varying the length of time you take to get to orgasm. It is likely you already have a natural variation in the time it takes depending on how in need of an orgasm you are, how relaxed you are and many other factors. So by, 'vary the time it takes', I mean make it quicker or slower than it would have been otherwise.

You probably find that by varying the speed of masturbating and the time taken to orgasm will have quite an effect on how your eventual orgasm feels.
Relaxing - for the whole body orgasm

Many women tense up more and more as they near orgasm. If you notice you do that, try the opposite. Concentrate on keeping fully relaxed as well as on the sexual feelings you are experiencing.

You may well find keeping relaxed difficult but persevere. When you do achieve a perfectly relaxed orgasm you are likely to find it goes throughout the whole of your body with waves of orgasmic sensation surging up and down from the tips of your toes to the top of your head!
Holding Back - the explosive orgasm

Maybe you are a woman who once you start masturbating you go 'hell for leather' for the orgasm, touching yourself just the way you know will bring you to climax as quickly as possible.

If so try the opposite.

First get yourself going with the way (or one of the ways) you like. Ease off, concentrating on how you feel for a while. Then take yourself near to orgasm and again ease off slightly, controlling your urge to go over the top. Try doing this once or twice, each time letting yourself get near to the point of no return. At last, when you can hold back no longer, first force yourself to ease back slightly for the last time and then go for it even harder than usual!
Separating the sensations - the different orgasm

Assuming you always masturbate using your fingers, if you were asked what erogenous zone you prefer to touch to achieve orgasm you will probably not be aware of the role contributed by your fingers. When you use your own fingers to masturbate, what you feel comes from both your erogenous zones and from the finger(s) you are using to touch them. Your brain mixes the two sets of inputs and your sexual excitement is born from these merged stimulating sensations.

For a different experience try masturbating using thick gloves or a smooth finger sized implement to remove the normal signals from your fingers. If you have never experienced this before it will feel strange not having the usual finger sensations and you could find it very sexy!
The sex toy - naughty vibrations

If you haven't tried using a vibrating sex toy you may well be surprised by one.

A vibrating sex toy works on two levels.

First it introduces a different way of stimulating the erotic zones. Vibration is very different from stroking (although, of course you can also stroke with a vibrator).

Secondly it removes the finger sensations as in the above suggestion. Well, it removes the feeling through you fingers of what you would be touching, but instead you do feel the vibration of the vibrator which may be a little distracting at first.

Talking of distractions it is worth using a vibrator that is relatively quiet otherwise you can also be distracted by loud buzzing and rattling noises! It is also worth having a vibrator where you can control the power/speed of vibration. There are a number of other important things to consider before buying a vibrator - see vibrator sex toys for more advice.

Having obtained a suitable vibrator, first try using it like you would your fingers. Many women find the vibrations take them to a powerful orgasm very quickly. Indeed there are many women who find that using a vibrator is the only way they can achieve orgasm.

Try using the vibrator through its range of power control - don't just go for the highest level that you can bear!

Once you are used to a vibrator try using the vibrator with some of the other techniques suggested in this article. You will find a vibrator brings yet another dimension to your orgasms.

In future articles I will cover yet more variations and techniques. I hope these ideas will enrich you sexual experience. I also hope that they will encourage you to use you own imagination to invent new ways and methods of enjoying the satisfying art of masturbation.

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2006-10-09T12:54:00.000-07:00

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